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My fiancée sleeps with a fan. I sleep with my finacée snoring.

I had insomnia for about the first 45 years of my life. At its worst, I would miss at least one night of sleep per week. By "miss" I mean I would go to bed at a reasonable hour, lay there with the lights off and my eyes closed until about 4:00am, when I'd get out of bed, get dressed, and go to work.

I tried drinking myself into a stupor. I tried white noise CDs. I even got a prescription for Ambien from my doctor. That scared me because I thought meds would do the trick, but I took it and still didn't sleep.

One day I saw a post about the Sleep With Me Podcast. It's described as bedtime stories for adults. I followed the link, started listening, and thought, "this guy may be the most boring person I've ever heard".

I started playing it when I went to bed, and it worked for me from the very first night. I fell asleep within minutes of starting the episode, but then I woke up after it ended.

The next night I loaded my phone with all the episodes. I slept through the night, but then I couldn't wake up in the morning. My alarm would go off, I'd hit snooze, then I'd hear the podcast playing and fall asleep again.

What I finally settled on was setting a sleep timer to stop the podcast a few minutes before my alarm would go off.

I've been listening to that podcast every night for the last 11 years. It's been the best sleep of my life. I've actually had the experience of being consciously aware of losing consciousness. It's a weird and wonderful thing.

The thing about the stories he tells is that it seems like there might be a point, and you start listening to the story, but he goes on so many tangents and diversions that it never actually goes anywhere. After a while, my brain just shuts down.

The first episode I listened to was telling a story about a group of people about to enter a pyramid. It ran for over an hour, but I didn't hear more than a few minutes.

The next episode continued the same story, and when I started it the next night, the people were still outside the pyramid. In over an hour of telling the story the night before, absolutely nothing happened.

Yes.

There's a retirement village nearby, and EVERY MORNING around 4 o'clock, some motherfucker with a huge rubbish truck goes in.

The driver parks.

The driver walks over to the large industrial bin.

The driver opens the lid to see if it's worth putting the contents in the truck. If it is, he lets the lid SLAM down, then pushes the rusty metal bin over the bitumen road towards his truck GRRRRNNNNNNNTTTT (because the wheels on those things never work).

He then gets back in his truck, does the little garbo magic with the mechanical arm thing, the truck lifts the bin, and he bangs it against the top of the truck receptacle a few times for shiggles BANG BANG BANGGGG, then moves the mechanical arms to place it back down on the bitumen with a gentle kiss BANG!

He then gets out of his truck, and pushes the now empty industrial bin over to where it was GGNNNNNNKKKKTTTTTT and positions it gently against the brick wall there BANG!

He then gets back in his truck, and reverses out the driveway DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT, and finally fucks off.

Dozens, if not hundreds, of people live there. If I can hear that truck as a neighbour, how much worse must it be for the oldies trying to sleep there?

Yeah, tinnitus.

A lot of comments in here about white noise and no one talking about brown noise! Brown noise is elite iykyk

No, I cant sleep with anything with vocals in it. My brain strains too hard trying to interpret or ignore it. Non-vocal music can work very well at low volume as long as its repetitive and thus predictable enough that my brain doesn't have to pay attention or react to a lot of changes in composition.

White noise machine

Podcast recommendations:

1. The Drowsy Historian
2. History of English Podcast (Kevin Stroud)

Both have no ads at all, and uniform volume.

Sleep music . changed my life . i used to lay awake for an hour . i created a world in my head and would continue the story every night . now with sleep music I'm out in minutes , the people of my world prolly miss me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMfPqeZjc2c

For the past two years. Without it, I have intrusive thoughts and anxiety. The sound makes me able to dream and to remember my dreams. I feel protected. Like I was in a bubble, sheltered from reality.

Yes, I have a fan always going through the night and I always have something playing like an old podcast as well. I just can't simply sink into sleep with nothing alone, I've tried that, with limited success and there's people around me, whose noises tend to wake me up.

not intentionally, white noise from the ac or a fan is fine on summer nights though! and the sounds from my girlfriends headphones when she stays up a bit later than me, but only because I get to be next to her lol

a speaker/TV show/movie? absolutely the fuck not I can't sleep with that my brain wants to pay attention so bad

Never, but I like conversing with my internal monologue in my head. I'm not quite neurotypical, but I have been pretty good (trained?) to rein in any out of control thoughts if they ever wander by using bait I know my brain can chill with.

When I was a teen, it was sexy stuff. Young adult, plot points for a novel setting I'll probably never write. Lately, it's just plans for the day (I sleep so much faster now than I used to, though, since I changed my sleep habits after having kids).

Plus, my own monologue makes sense of how I'm feeling and gives me pep talks! That's probably a product of coping with abuse, but it's nice none the less.

I always put on one of Vinny Vinesauce's vods from his Fullsauce channel when I go to sleep. He just relaxes me so much I'm normally out within less than 5 minutes whereas in complete silence I could end up taking half an hour or multiple hours to fall asleep.

I honestly would prefer library silence or less. Earplugs cause other issues for me so they are not an option, I have tried. I also prefer almost complete darkness.

I'm honestly looking to build a float tank to use for times when I am really struggling to sleep. When I scuba dive the only reason why I don't try to take a nap is the risk of losing my regulator or running out of air.

I live in a city, of course there's noise, mostly road noise from cars going past tbh

I prefer to sleep in the quiet, but if the neighbours are being loud I'll use a fan to drown them out

I use a fan. Without it it's too quiet and hot.

Go and get that ADHD assessment

No

Tv every night

I’m so goddamn hyper alert that I need complete silence and pitch black darkness to fall asleep.

Except for thunderstorms. Those are oddly soothing. But that’s it.

Always, because I have to use a CPAP

ADHD adult with chronic insomnia here. I usually sleep with "electronic ambient music for sleeping with delta waves", which is the prompt I give my bedside google home before bed. I do not sleep more, but the delta waves thing seems to help me sleep deeper.

We have a ceiling fan, and I also used various white noise apps on my phone. I read somewhere that sound apps running on my phone all night was bad for the battery, so I bought a small, dedicated rechargeable white noise machine.

Usually a story-telling or audio play podcast.

Oh man no. Not like that. White noise or nature sounds is great. One thing is I run a fan often in the summers and it is a bit annoying to adjust to not having it but its not so big a deal I feel I have to use it. Its like a treat for myself to put on some nature sounds but I rarely do it. I love having a fire with ocean rains and a light storm combined. Im actually sorta the opposite of you. Sounds that actually have engaging audio drive me nuts and its kina worse the lower it gets. The most annoying thing is to have this sound of a show or voices that is just barely loud enough that I can hear them and its keeping me from actually sleeping. Have had to remind my wife a bunch to put on her headphones as she always thinks she can just lower the volume and it will be fine. But the lower volume is as I said. Worse.

If it's hot out yes because I got a window ac unit. But when it's cold out, it is the deepest silence, and I love it. Either way, doesn't bother me. But I prefer the quiet.

I have sleep with me podcast