A lack of values. Quick to anger. No introspection. Controlled by greed and culture. Swearing in the wrong settings.
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Celebrity worship
Littering
Vulgar consumerism
Bigotry
Brand worship
I haven’t met my aunt’s cousin many times, but I did hear about her wedding. For his vows, Mike 3 (the third Mike she dated and I think second she had married) crushed an entire Mike’s Hard Lemonade then declared “I love you so much, Babe!” After the ceremony they took the rifles that had been leaning a few feet away and shot some targets nearby. I think that was a few weeks after she had been excited that 7 years had passed since her last bankruptcy, which meant she could start racking up debt again and go on a cruise.
I guess kudos to them for living their best lives, but if all that’s not a little trashy, I don’t know what is.
Arrogance and inconsideration
I think of trashy as the opposite end of the spectrum from classy.
Respecting others privacy and being gracious when someone is embarrassed? Classy. Arguing in front of others or loudly reprimanding someone in public? Trashy.
Dressed appropriately for the venue and audience? Classy. Booty shorts and flip flops in an office space? Trashy.
Being on time and considerate in your manner of arrival? Classy Being late and disruptive? Trashy.
You don't have to be rich to be classy, just considerate. In the same way, people of means can be trashy if they're inconsiderate of others.
I think to me, the ultimate trashy move is to pee in public.
Low effort, badly kept, poor quality. Some combination of those three.
Its like art. I can't really say but I know it when I see it.
I don’t think it’s about specific behaviors but the way they’re carried out.
I think trashy is socially tone deaf, inconsiderate, selfish, and thoughtless actions.
This. I have run fundraising offices in multiple cities. There's often one or two "trashy" people in each office, who could learn people's names but don't, who insist that everything they do is perfect and others need to change to see it, who love being loud and living large themselves but won't respect other's choices or beliefs even in shared professional spaces. They litter. They steal from people they know. They often hide behind a veneer of religious faith, to deflect criticism. They refuse to learn, or reflect upon their actions with anything but praise.
Currently wishing cancer on the guy who walks right past the stationery cupboard to steal sharpies from my desk.
trump
Yep
And his idiot supporters
I was standing outside of a coffee shop one time when I looked across the street and I saw a 40-year-old grown adult woman take her gum out of her mouth and deliberately drop it in the middle of the sidewalk because she couldn't be bothered to walk five feet to put it in a trash can.
It’s gross, but if you’ve got a napkin nearby, you’ve got the opportunity to provide some instant karma in the form of social shaming.
Fake opulence. Example: donald trump. Gold gilded everything in extreme excess. Properties that look like a "B" movie cheesy bordello. Trying to be 'hip, flashy cool, in'. And looking ultra cringe trying.
Non-political example: Big ass, loud, overly decked-out truck. Raised up adds 10,000 points, diesel adds 1 million points.
People who are actually classy don't have to try. And being classy was never their goal. Trashy takes a lot of effort.
Trying to be ‘hip, flashy cool, in’. And looking ultra cringe trying.
'Trashy' was a word I'd formerly associated only with trailer parks, and wouldn't have associated with Elon Musk, but some of the examples in this thread have expanded my view!
Swearing or aggresive behaviour in public when there are little kids around.
Private conversations in public at a volume that ensures everyone knows your business.
Similarly, speaking at full volume on your phone in public.
And the phone is on speaker! Motherfucker, you can hear it better when it's not on speaker and is pressed against your ear!
I actually have trouble understanding anything on the phone if it's not on speaker, but I still don't use it that way in public.
Lack of respect for other people, though it's really usually just a mild annoyance.
You know it when you see it.
The trashiest thing to me is a loud vehicle being revved and driven by a total asshole
I like to yell "Sorry about your small wiener!"
Oh. That was me. Sorry.
Trashy is pretty close to the union of inconsiderate and incurious.
Behaving inconsiderately towards strangers.
Donald Trump's interior decoration choices
And exterior, too.
Easy – leopard print clothing.
Ooh I am trashy as heck then, and proudly so. My favorite shirt, and the one I get compliments on, is silk leopard print button-up, it's gorgeous.
I think trashy is behavior not style. Loud and messy and yelling at servers; behavior that indicates a lack of awareness of the feelings of anyone else around you.
I always thought that as well, but my opinion changed when I had to dress for a pretty formal office. Leopard print (in the form of a cardigan or scarf or something similar) lets you bridge the gap between black and brown so you don’t need to buy new, matching clothing and shoes. I still didn’t feel comfortable enough with it to actually wear it, but I don’t have catty (sorry) thoughts when I see leopard print anymore.
Actually, now that I think about it, that made it fall out of my personal definition of trashy, but might make it trashier for some people.
AI generated "content". Especially when it's blatantly obvious and/or when they're lying about it.
Arguing loudly in public. Like having a fight on your front lawn or at a restaurant.
Being a Karen. Very often because it turns into the aforementioned arguing loudly in public but also just the general Karen attitude of how they treat people is trashy.
Rolling coal.
Having a gigantic pickup truck without a need for its towing or hauling capabilities.
Having tons of political affiliation things on your car. Both ways. Not just MAGA. I'd be equally concerned if I saw someone in a tiny smart car flying Bernie Sanders flags with tons of left wing political slogan stickers plastered on it. I get liking the guy, but doing all that is still weird cultist-like shit.
Littering. Literally and figuratively.
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Any publicly displayed religious / political mashup. I'm thinking specifically of those "stand for the flag, kneel for the cross" bumper stickers but there's other stuff in that category too. It seems to indicate a person who can't think in terms other than tribalism.
I often wonder, if they walk past a church that has a cross motif, do they stop and kneel?
As a Christian myself, 10,000x this. SO much.
I really can't stand the hypocrisy of America-brand Christianity: swearing oaths to a star-spangled idol is not following Christ.
Hypocritical Finnish drunks with infidelity problems who pretend they're the shining beacon of morality and ruin people's lives over cannabis despite drinking themselves unconscious several times a week.
Talking at the movies. It's happening increasingly frequently here, and it's making me go less nowadays. I don't mean a few words, I mean constant chatter throughout the showing. Like, just shut the hell up and get immersed!
Getting too emotional, positively or negatively, about any sports team you don't have a real personal connection to (as in, your dad founded it, your brother plays in it, something like that, not just "well I was born in Shitstreak so I'm a proud Shitstreaker!") or that you haven't bet any money on. Additionally, betting money on sports or any sort of gambling, which can go from trashy and desperate to degenerate and pathological.
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