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I sent him the green text, and apparently he offered to fix a friend’s instrument in the past and got an earful. He would have been fine with me getting his old one fixed up, but he’s happy to have the new one

Depends what “fix” means, but if you didn’t get ripped off for $200, yes.

Getting it professionally tuned isn’t unreasonable imo, especially if the neck/pegs are misaligned, but in no world should that cost $200 (and don’t try to fix a misalignment).

Once you start making changes that can’t be undone, you’ve crossed the line. Get it tuned, get a nice strap (with mounting hardware, if needed), get a polishing kit or nicer case, hell, even get a replacement bridge/pegs and tools for working with a guitar, but don’t make permanent changes yourself (or have anyone else do so). All of those together could be well over $200, but you’d describe that as a tuneup and buying accessories, not taking the guitar “to a pro to fix it.”

Caveat that some people don’t like non-musicians or anyone else even touching their instruments, but I’d like to think that would be obvious to a spouse, even one who might have assumed that permanent changes to an instrument they don’t own are okay.

I’m a non-musician and my husband has a somewhat beaten up, but favored instrument that he learned on, so I’ll send this to him to see if my instinct is right (for my relationship, which does not mean it would be right for anyone else).

Though tbf, even thinking it might be okay, I got my husband a new instrument instead of messing with his beloved one, just because it occurred to me that he might react like the husband in the OP, and I didn’t want to risk it. Of course, he could also have then felt guilty about using the new one because it’s not the one he loves and felt guilty about using the old one because I gifted him a “nicer” one. I was lucky in that he’d already branched out into related instruments and the new one could fill a new niche, so wouldn’t compete with the old, making me less worried about him feeling conflicted [I'm so sorry about that sentence, I’m imagining trying to structure it in German without nominalizing any of the clauses and… woof].

Why not just tax the hell out of any non-mortgage/education related private loans over $150k (the HELP lifetime limit) and any non-real estate related business loans over $5M (or a different value, I’m not sure what’s reasonable for a commercial loan).

I paid $450 for a single room in a house share ten years ago. Now it’s $850 for rooms on the same street

This is satire, just to be clear. They can’t collect your genetic data (the next consent box) unless it’s 23&me or something like that and in that case, it wouldn’t be in the cookie banner.

I’m honestly surprised that salmonella can survive on jalapeños.

That’s how rich countries oppress poor countries though. No better offer existing doesn’t make this a good offer, it just shows that people are still as tribalist as ever. Australia absolutely contributes to Tuvalu’s climate crisis, and gives them an extortionate deal because nobody else will do better, not because it’s fair or close to it.

Defending that just seems like saying that might makes right.

Normalise sounds like a character on Mama's Family.

It’s only cheating if it’s not a part of the plan, whether it’s a relationship or anything else.

In go fish, lying about what you have in your hand is cheating. In a closed book exam, using your notes is. Nobody says that people want to play a bluffing game or take an open-book exam because they want to cheat. At most, people will say that someone wants those things because they will perform better under those circumstances, which, while not phrased well, is also true of poly people in monogamous relationships (and very much vice versa- especially for monogamous people who can only conceive of polyamory as cheating), no? It’s not a choice to be polyamorous, and people who are won’t be as fulfilled by a monogamous relationship.

That doesn’t mean they’ll cheat on a monogamous partner, because that is a choice (and frankly, I suspect poly people are less likely to cheat than monogamous people because of the emotional work they’ve already done to realize that they’re poly- I only know one poly person who is a serial cheater, and that’s because he refuses to do any of the required emotional labor to make enm work, so he does just continually get into “monogamous” relationships; whereas I know many monogamous people who are currently or were previously serial cheaters).

Additionally, just as looking at your opponent’s cards or your classmate’s answers are still cheating in bluffing games and open book tests, dating or romantically/sexually interacting with someone outside of what is agreed upon in a poly relationship is still cheating. Poly people don’t have an excuse to cheat at all, and in fact have a greater responsibility not to, given the larger number of people whose health depends on their transparency.

So… he was right?

I highly doubt there are countries where just every door is like this. It's substantial extra cost to have both sides take a key instead of one side having just a knob.

Not internal doors, but I’ve never lived anywhere in Germany without a key accessible lock on either side of the exterior doors.

This week, I spent 3.5 hours traveling 35 km. It was round trip, because the trains stopped traveling in my original direction and I had to go home. Three weeks ago, I spent six hours traveling less than 80 km.

I could literally bicycle faster. I’d be okay with a hole in the floor as long as they mounted a seat on it for handicapped riders.