• Plenty of people lose their virginity in their 20s and later, even if it's not talked about much. Try not to worry about it. Nobody is going to judge you. My current girlfriend and I were both older than you when we lost ours.
• Virginity is a social construct and (assuming nobody gets pregnant or a disease) you'll find that not much will change in your life once you lose it. I understand the FOMO, but being on the other side of it now I can tell you that it's not really worth having FOMO over.
• Odds are you could find somebody to have sex with if you were really truly desperate. But you're probably not that desperate, and nor should you be. Masturbation is significantly better than bad sex with some you don't care about.
• Online dating apps generally suck and aren't a great fit for most people, let alone one-size-fits-all. If you want to avoid the dating apps, I recommend finding other ways to put yourself out there and expand your social circle. Touch grass and get some hobbies. Do your best to make plAtonic friends and see if that introduces you to people who you might want to ask out.
• If you have someone you want to ask out, then ask them out!! I spent too long letting shyness and fear of rejection block me from making moves, but we're much better off just going for it. Rejection isn't guaranteed, nor will it kill you if it happens.

Have you tried turning on the grail shaped light?

IDK, the first time I had sex all I could think was “that’s it?”. Now I’m married and can have as much boring sex as I want 😎.

I think society puts too much emphasis on the whole virgin thing.

better than losing your virginity to some dumbass that you think back to every couple months and go "why the fuck did I do that?"

23y is super young

23 isn't particularly old at all.

If you don't want to do online dating, try doing something where you will meet other people your age.

Meanwhile me, 35 and a kissless (and girlfriendless) virgin:

Hey baby, wanna be disappointed?

Pretty sure the nuns are boinking each other (in the butt)

1. Travel to a place where prostitution is legal
2. hire and/or become a prostitute
3. profit (possibly literally)

On one hand, it's better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you wish you were alone. I learned this the hard way.

On the other hand, to have companionship is wonderful. I was almost 30 before I met the love of my life. She is a VERY quiet person. To the point where it was a little unnerving at first. One day, for some reason, she mustered the courage to ask me out on a date. I didn't know how big a deal that was for her at the time. But I know from experience that dudes don't get asked out often and I was impressed. That was almost 10 years ago.

She's learned how to open up a lot more. She's still quiet, quieter than me anyway, but she can also be a lot of fun. More importantly, she's a good and honorable person, a good mom, and great wife. She's my best friend and I'm grateful that I get to share my life with her.

Is Lemmy at the point of creepy dude capacity that I should wish RIP to your inbox?

Did you even try to follow the D.E.N.N.I.S. system?

Society values a lot of shit based in sex, but you do not have to. Value yourself as you should and want sex is good nice fun and all but is not everything. It took me until 40 to stop doing that to myself.

You are not missing out. There are a lot of lunatics in this world, and IMO, it is better to have nothing than be with them. I was in it for the long term and because I wanted a serious relationship, with a person that is equal to me, not above or below me, and with mutual support for each other. Turns out most guys below 30 are turned off by that. And so basically I stayed boyfriendless for a long time. But the first "real" boyfriend I got, I kept, and he kept me, because we both had an agreement when it came to what we wanted out of the relationship. While I definitely know the pain, the genuine pain especially when you're lying in bed, you know the one, right? This is still better than to have a destructive lunatic who will tear down everything happy about your life. With a person like that, you'll wish the pain back because now it felt pleasant when compared to this. So please, do not despair. Carry on. Do things that you enjoy, or things where you can meet other young people. Then, forget about the dating advice. Treat even romantic interests as friends at first, and see what develops. Because IMO, no serious relationship was ever born out of some red pill YouTube trash.

This is just my opinion on this and I'm sure other people here have given good advice.

Trying to think about how old I was when I met my boyfriend, and it's causing psychic damage because I have to reckon with how old I am now and I don't want to. We've been together for what, six years now I think?