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I know the word normies may have weird connotations, but I just mean that, regular everyday people.

I've been enjoying Lemmy a lot and even recommended it to a few close friends who are working in tech. But I would like Lemmy to be way bigger, maybe have those makefriends communities like reddit has, be it gaming friends, just for chatting, for voicecalls, etc etc...

But I also wonder, could growing Lemmy indiscriminately be a bad thing? As you relax filters and barriers to entry, yes, more people can come in, but I have a feeling the quality of the people might go down aswell.

Is a clique-like platform what Lemmy is supposed to be like? Or is it supposed to try and absorb as much users as possible and be just a user-managed user-owned reddit alternative with no ads and less censorship?

I believe the answer may lie somewhere in the middle, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on it, as I'm a total newbie on here.

(Also I understand private dms on Lemmy are not secure, but you can keep the idea of the "r4r" community and just drop a matrix or session link in dms, not perfect as the admins can be what username you sent out, but at least it ends there)

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[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 3 points 41 minutes ago

Yes, I want to build up an alternative to big tech controlled social media so working class people can have our own voices magnified.

[–] miadidi@lemmy.world 4 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

A lot of normies won’t be using Lemmy or fediverse in general. It is not as addictive or personalised as the mainstream social media. Plus an avg joe doesn’t know whan an instance is. If one instance starts to get too many users, it might just shut down sign ups.

Edit: Lemmy also doesn’t have an “official” app. So it adds even more friction. Yeah a few users might get excited and use it for a couple of days and then just go back to reddit.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 11 hours ago

I sympathize with people who like niche internet communities, but the main thing I want to see happen is the collapse and replacement of centralized social media sites, especially reddit, so the more people the better.

[–] h4x0r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 9 hours ago

The call is coming from inside the house my guy.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

A rising tide lifts all ships. A larger userbase doesn't just mean "normies", it means a wider variety of demographics, fandoms, and views.

And that in turn means that somewhere in the large userbase will be more people who match my freak. The main thing I used Reddit for was niche hobbies and fandoms, but over here I suspect I might be the only person on this platform who's into my specific hyperfixations. If the userbase was large enough, there might be a chance to try and establish communities for some of those things.

But perhaps most importantly, I want this place to grow to prove that alternatives to the corporate social media platforms can succeed. And in order to do that, we do need "normies", we need to pull them away from those corporate platforms.

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[–] tyo_ukko@sopuli.xyz 53 points 17 hours ago (8 children)

I'd take "normies" any day over people who classify others as "normies".

[–] dreadbeef@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 17 hours ago

nothing wrong with being a normie

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[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 33 points 17 hours ago

The fediverse is about offering an alternative to the monopoly power and political control of the large corporate sites. The more people are here, the less control those have. That is a good thing and far more important than any kind of elitist snobbery people here like to indulge in.

[–] shittydwarf@piefed.ca 109 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 26 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

If you hand made this one rn you are a pretty cool guy, but if you had it saved up and ready to use you're based.

[–] shittydwarf@piefed.ca 81 points 20 hours ago (2 children)
[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 22 points 20 hours ago

If I could get on a upvote loan to upvote it twice I would, this is sick haha

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 16 points 20 hours ago
[–] Lemvi@piefed.zip 63 points 20 hours ago (7 children)

I don't see why we would want to gatekeep the fediverse. If more people decided to use it over centralized social media, I think that'd be a positive development.

And as you know, the fediverse is far from homogeneous. I expect there will always be some very big general purpose "normie" instances like lemmy.world, and smaller, more niche ones for specific communities.

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 15 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

I don’t see why we would want to gatekeep the fediverse

OP's account is less than a week old...

The worst part about Fediverse growing in spurts is posts like this; people who have no idea what it's like, but "want to open discussions" about changing shit.

[–] copingwithelmons@lemmy.world 1 points 2 minutes ago

Something to get the blood pumping. I am waiting for when the niche communities come alive.

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[–] reksas@sopuli.xyz 6 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

the nature of lemmy means there can be indiscriminate growth without the inherent issues that come with it. The real issue is that should lemmy grow really big, corporations will become interested. Maybe they see it as something to colonize and try to claim, maybe they see it as threat if they cant control it.

That is what we need to be ready for, not the people that are unwittingly being oppressed by those corporations.

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[–] RedEyeFlightControl@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I think there are some similarities, but also some differences.

Lemmy will probably eventually attract the normies of which you speak. And that's not a bad thing. Bad things happen when low quality content and ad farming are prioritized. The nature of sharing culture, information, and entertainment will always attract new audience.

Because communities here aren't being monetized by corporate ownership, and because you can selectively add or block instances that don't meet community standards, I don't think Lemmy will fall prey to the same enshitifcation that slowly ruined reddit.

[–] NovaVeles@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

A thousand times this! It isn't the popularity that is the issue, it is the economic model of exploitation.

[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

warm fuzzy words right there, made my night better, hope it pans out well

[–] Romkslrqusz@lemmy.zip 24 points 20 hours ago (7 children)

One thing late-stage Reddit really had going for it is that, for any niche topic or hobby, you could find a sizeable active community.

I still have to visit that place from time to time, but I’d rather be on Lemmy.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I, for one, do not wish to see Eternal September ever again.

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[–] earlier_riser@lemmy.world 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, because it will fail otherwise. If only Linux nerds and tankies hang out here, than every community is just a slightly differently flavored tankie/linux community, and we'll die on the vine. We want normies to see the value in the fediverse, because then they'll start to ask why they should be giving all their privacy to big corporations.

[–] treadful@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 hours ago

I'd still like to see the user base more diverse, but I'd be happy to stay if it's just linux geeks.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 23 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (10 children)

Depends. I wish there were more normal people here myself. Because I'm not an extremist looking to live in a hugbox and I enjoy diversity. I genuinely take joy in learning other people's thoughts and perspectives on topics when they are expressed in a peaceful and thoughtful way. But I'm in a minority.

As for needing to 'grow userbase'. Not really, but if you want more content and more niches you need more users, plain and simple. Most folks here miss there niche communities from reddit.

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[–] marxismtomorrow@lemmy.today 20 points 21 hours ago (5 children)

You're asking this on .world, the normie instance. .world is the watered down version of lemmy.

But to answer your question, yes, ideally all people should move to foss versions of corpo software, if only to devalue digital data trading and advertisement space. Yes that means more instances going further right wing, and some instances choosing to no longer federate with the larger, more 'normie' ones; but the overall good to society is worth the cost.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago

Lemmy, taken as a whole, is not a pigeon on the radar of "good to society". If this place disappeared tomorrow, everyone would ask, "What the fuck is a lemmy?"

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[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

Lemmy already has all the issues that Big Social Media has except the profit and monetization drive expectation by a commercial management team. Bad mods, bots, whatever. The difference is that we’re still small enough via instances that it is possible to segregate truly problematic instances or users by other users or instance operators. So in that way we have an advantage, and IMO unless there are some dramatic changes in how the fediverse operates I think it makes it unattractive to the people seeking to commercialize and/or manipulate Social Media. While it’s not impossible for those changes, it’s just unlikely.

[–] darthsundhaft@piefed.social 2 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

I don't understand when people say "normies" this and "normies" that. What makes us any different than when we were on Reddit?

How many people were actually even using Lemmy only before they were using Reddit? I rarely used it before but when they got real shitty, I decided to move here.

So what does that even make me? What creed do I need to follow to be considered not a "normie"?

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 14 hours ago

Normies are just "not internet people." It can also be referring to neurotypicals in certain spaces.

[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago

"Normie" Is a loose definition, but my personal definition would combine a few things:

  • Mainstream interests without too much depth (likes what's trending right now and follows what most people do/like for hobbies, but doesn't dive deep in any topic)
  • Lack of willingness to go out of their way to set things up, no matter how simple they might be, they just rather have something that requires 0 effort/thought.
  • Lack of critical thinking skills (Debating usually but not always, ends up in "I FEEL this way therefore it's right", tons of logical fallacies, and then they get angry if you point those out, arguing for them its more about being loud/disrespecting the other person than using sound logic)

I find people who are not in this group, usually have some interest in a topic in which they do read on it/dive deeper into it, even if it pisses them off, they can set up things because they understand the value on it, and I feel these types of people (usually) end up being better conversation when it comes to arguing about something, they will try and convince you using some type of logic other than "im right you're wrong".

Not a 1to1 with what you'll probably find in other places when it comes to defining the term, this is just how I personally see it.

[–] justdaveisfine@piefed.social 12 points 21 hours ago (7 children)

Sure, I think Lemmy could have an instance or two for the normies.
And then a dozen or so for the weirdos.

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[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 8 points 19 hours ago

A slow growth would be preferable at the moment. Getting Lemmy to be regularly used by at least 250k people would allow more niche communities to take off.

I do not see a big problem regarding people feeling being drowned out by rising user count. There's always the possibility of going the way BeeHaw did, to curate the instances you want to federate with, allowing smaller, more isolated nodes to exist to provide safe spaces and to avoid context collapse .

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