Relationship Memes

Cooking dinner together is one of my favorite dates. Making it work is all about good communication and working together for a shared goal.

It's easier to cook by yourself, sure, but it's also less fun.

I feel so seen

If you haven't cooked professionally before, or are "just trying to help", you're darling for wanting to contribute but likely unaware of the added complications you're bringing to the effort. 😅 🤷🏼‍♂️

I’m not even in a relationship and I tell people to get out.

I like to offer chopping services, i can do that someplace else without being in the way and still do something helpful

It’s baffling to me that people actually enjoy cooking. I don’t, and likely would just starve if left to my own devices.

Luckily, my partner loves cooking (we have a pretty symbiotic relationship). When I offer the help, the response is usually, “Stay over there, out of the way, and look pretty” lol

A game called Overcooked matches what I experience when there's more than one person in the kitchen.

So true. I have never raged (nor been raged at) as hard as I’ve raged (and been raged at) in the kitchen!

My partner says she "wants to cook together" what she actually means is she puts the stuff in the pot and spices it and I chop the veggies and clean up. But if I don't she's not quick enough to get dinner done before the children eat my skin.

I used to be married to a chef, cooking together was one of our primary bonding points. They taught me how to cook at a professional quality but I've never gotten to a professional speed. Usually that meant I'd do prep work while they did a million things around me but as long as I was in my station it worked really well. Even now we're not together I love cooking with people in general doesn't matter if they get in my way or not. It's just such a fun way to interact with people and I'm more invested in that than whatever the food result is

eh, it can work. when my wife was well enough to cook we'd divide it like she washes, I chop and prep, and she cooks, then we split cleaning. Now I'm doing all of that and I really appreciate the occasions where we have a friend visiting who is willing to do some prep and cleaning. I usually do the cooking even when I have help, mostly because it's rare to find someone who knows how to cook what we eat. But I'm always eager to have help.

When I want help is when all dishes need to finish at about the same time and each dish requires attention and input. Then I explain the steps and delegate the easiest dish to whoever is within shouting distance just before that time comes. If you want a chill experience with me in the kitchen, come see me during prep work.

And while we're at it, yes the plate from what you are eating from is hot. We're serving hot food to here, not microwaved instant noodles.

Our kitchen is tiny so cooking is a solo sport in this house. I simply won't go near when she's cooking (95% of the work). Won't even come close when she's cleaning. Doesn't bitch at me, but her body language is clear, does that shooing-away-a-fly thing, "You're in my space and I'm busy."

When I'm up to bat, "GET. OUT. I got this." She didn't think men could cook, never having met such a male. (Asian thing?) Took me some time to prove her wrong. She no longer tries to help. :)

In either case. Sit down. STFU. Await dinner.

We love cooking together but it usually means she cuts an onion very very slowly and tells me a story, while I cut the rest and cook the food. But we still love it both spending time together this way.

I used to work a restaurant and can get a meal done in half an hour that would take my wife 2 hours. I just prefer to do it on my own at my speed. I tell her she can set the table and we can do dishes together

I love cooking together, especially if it's something complicated that requires a lot of prep and multiple steps. If you have good communication with your partner it can be fun, it really feels like team effort, and it can speed up the cooking quite a bit. Overall it's probably easier to cook alone, but cooking together is faster and more fun in my experience.

I like cooking with a partner, but we tend to choose before starting who is the chef and who is the sous for that meal. The sous just preps and keeps the space tidy and fetches shit while the chef orchestrates and cooks. This is a heck of a lot more fun, and then the chef can be like "go set the table" or "start washing up" once there's nothing else needed. Keeps it moving

My ex cooked well and liked to, but was SHIT at prep. Veggies sliced as thick as your wrist. Meanwhile I'm eh at cooking and also don't like to, but I can prep like nobody's business.

We had a system where she'd do the cooking but I'd do the sous chef prep, made her learn the few cuts I know like juilenne, cube, dice, mince, etc just well enough to tell me which to do.

Worked really well, probably the most well functioning part of that relationship, rimshot.

I always had this romantic notion growing up of cuddling my beloved from behind when she is cooking, but my wife fucking hates it. Conversely, I don't like having other people in the kitchen when I'm cooking so I fully understand.

i would say cooking together works when one is the main cook and other is prepping or both work on different components of the meal

Can confirm. If I am in the kitchen, everyone else gets the cleaver brandished at them. It's not that I don't appreciate the help, it's that I am kinda dancing around the kitchen and no one else knows the steps and I end up bumping into them.

My most common response to people asking what they can do to help is, “get the fuck out of my kitchen.”

If we cook together what really happens is one of us does the actual cooking and the other person preps ingredients/cleans cookware.

Like others in the responses, we split the labor, not chop veg while doing doggy style or whatever that couple in the picture is doing.

Generally, I cook, my husband cleans up after.

Sometimes I ask my kids to prep or I prep and ask them to cook (if I have to leave the house).

Occasionally I ask someone to open and assemble bagged salad while I cook, that's about the only "cooking together at the same time in the same space" I can think of off hand.

this meme doesn't apply to everyone. my dad helps my mom cook all the time. When i was with my ex i would of loved her help, and offered mine.

My girlfriend always asks if she can help and my answer is no 99% of the time. I'll ask her for help stirring something while I go to the bathroom. Nothing more.

Then again, she does drive a long way to come to my house, the least I can do is cook for her and let her relax. So works out for both of us.

This is flat out wrong... This person is telling on either themselves, or their incompetent partner.

I do most of the cooking, but I love help in the kitchen.

There seems to be a sharp divide here.

I have a friend who is like this, used to be a physical chemist, knows exactly what she is trying to make and it's a calibrated procedure that she needs to be focused for.

I like hanging out in the kitchen and I certainly like having someone willing to help out with stuff.