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Depends on the favor and if you want to do it of course. I'd say be better than them and respond, don't bring up the last time, and if you don't want to just kindly say that you don't want to or can't.

Since I don't know details, I assume it's someone you haven't talked to in 6 months and they want help moving or something, I'd say "Hey good to hear from you! Unfortunately I can't, sorry, but let me know if you want to meet up for a beer or something"

keep it simple and vague. You don't need to give them a reason or an excuse, just simply can't.

Wait six months and ask them for a bigger favor.

Depends on the person, on the favor etc.

Is this somebody whos a good friend and we just fell out of contact? As long as the favor isnt too bad, id probably do it.

Is this somebody I met at a bar, texted once and never heard from again? id not respond.

Depends who it is. For the guy i consider a brother from another mother, I'd probably help. 35 years of friendship will do that.

Depends on how close we were and the reason and surcumstances for that long break.

I have lots of contacts and friends that i really just forget to message every now and then because both of us are buisy

It is possible that they responded but it was never received.

In six months respond and say "sure what do you need?"

If they reply, wait another six months before saying "sorry I can't help you with that anymore."

I wouldn't

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I would say curb your emotions and look at possibilities that may exculpate or condemn your person. Then I would take the time to consider past experiences with this person and make a decision on whether you feel it's an interdependent (not codependent) relationship, and whether or not you feel used, and base a decision on that, coupled with how much you value the friendship.

Honestly not enough context here to answer. Are they a former close friend, distant aquintence, former love interest? Do you have a pattern of long period of time with no catch up? A lot of thing in relationships are contextual based on set expectations.

My knee jerk reaction is I wouldn’t respond.

It sounds like you already know your answer, OP

Agree but then don't do what they asked for 6 months.

I would fail to respond.

This is not a hypothetical, I have a friend who does this habitually. If it's a one time thing and not their normal behavior, just let it go!

I use signal, I write a response like nothing has happened. I make sure to quote their message in my response. I use the timed message feature of signal and I send the response in 6 months.

Ask what the favour is?

Sorry, can't do that.

They've gone through their contact list and finally arrived at your name.
Ignore it. Or reply and see if they're interested in renewing contact even if you don't do the favor (They probably will ghost you again as soon as you say no).

It depends on who the friend is. I have a lot of friends that I don't need to talk to all the time.

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