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i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?

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[โ€“] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

You're super pretty, wow!

Maybe Amanda? Sophie? Kayleigh?

Idk this is so random ๐Ÿ˜ญ

[โ€“] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Sophie's pretty good, I don't really like eigh names and i feel like im the wrong generation for amanda. I'll definitely add sophie to my list though

[โ€“] Shirow@lemmy.zip 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Sophie/ Sophia came to my mind too, Emelyn (probably too French?) Somehow I could an Amy too? ๐Ÿ˜Š

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[โ€“] lena@gregtech.eu 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Kate/Katy.

Also, nice kitty. I demand more cat tax.

Ooh I'd spell it katie but I like that.

Here's roof cat

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[โ€“] Kayday@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

You look like an Allison / Aly to me!

[โ€“] ElectricWaterfall@lemmy.zip 0 points 4 weeks ago

I thought this too before I came to the comments!!

[โ€“] me_jumper@infosec.pub 0 points 4 weeks ago

I thought Anna, but I think that is not too common in the US. So I think I'm agreeing with this the most ๐Ÿ˜Š

(Just noticed: maybe they are not in the US as well. Even I as a German think US centric online, weird.)

[โ€“] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I see a camera! Tell me more! Show your work! You have the attention of a lifelong devoted photographer.

Also, Iโ€™m Tanis, pronounced TAH-niss, and there needs to be more of me with that name in the world!

[โ€“] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

That's my Pentax P3.

I'm not a great photographer, but here are a couple of my favorite photos I've taken with that camera

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[โ€“] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago

Youโ€™ve got a solid eye for composition! Keep it up!

[โ€“] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Just saying, blahaj zone has a fediverse based photography instance http://photos.blahaj.zone/

I'd love to see more people upgrading photos there than just me :)

Grace, because you are graceful.

[โ€“] joeljoelle@piefed.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Emily? Elle? I say Elle because in the second picture you look like Elle Fanning, to my eyes at least. :) Cute berry vest :)

I like emily a lot, I feel like its maybe too much of a trans stereotypical name though. Elle is pretty good, I'll add it to my list

[โ€“] cramola@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Hmmm, currently the top of my list already and people keep suggesting it. Definitely considering it

Look like a Tara to me

[โ€“] Janx@piefed.social 0 points 4 weeks ago
[โ€“] Lehmuusa@nord.pub 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I wonder if this is of any help... But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?

In any case... Damn, you've got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I'd intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.

[โ€“] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (7 children)

I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like "well my identity is having a son!!" so now im just pretending to not be trans around them

[โ€“] Blibly@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago

Jesus christ how pathetic of your mom. hugs

[โ€“] Lehmuusa@nord.pub 0 points 4 weeks ago

...huh!

That is awful! You're seriously unlucky with your parents. But you've got so much strength in you to be able to ask these questions. And to answer to my comment.

Admirable!

[โ€“] HumanOnEarth@lemmy.ca 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Wow.

Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.

It's ok to struggle as a parent with your kid's sexuality/identity if you don't fully understand things. It's NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.

Tell your mom an internet stranger said "shame on you" and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.

Edit: Taylor?

[โ€“] db_null@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 4 weeks ago

Uff, sorry to hear that. Hope they will come around and educate themself a bit about you. Best of luck, Emma (?)

[โ€“] thisisbutaname@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

My mom said that if'd been born a girl my name would have been Alice. I don't need it, so you can have it if you want

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[โ€“] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 weeks ago

โ€œwell my identity is having a son!!โ€

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[โ€“] ChexMax@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago

You look like a Sarah to me :) like you should be surrounded by flowers

[โ€“] YoureHotCupCake@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago
[โ€“] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

oooooh i like that. i could be just like the best bob's burgers character

[โ€“] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 weeks ago

I couldn't remember who that was and had to look her up. The limo driver!

I really get a young Gillian Anderson vibe from your pictures, so maybe Jillian?

What about Divona, it's the name of the Gallic goddess of sacred springs and rivers

[โ€“] Zorsith@piefed.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago
[โ€“] Luci@lemmy.ca 0 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

We can all give you suggestions, but what names were you feeling? Those are the best names to choose from.

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I'd call you Grace if you asked me to guess your name

[โ€“] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago

Ivy. That's what came to my mind. Good luck in your quest for a name.

[โ€“] Witchfire@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago

I'm not going to suggest a name because they're deeply personal and I don't know anything about you, but I will share a story instead.

I compare it to stargazing. Picture yourself laying on a hill on a calm night looking up at the night sky. The first thing you see is a scattering of stars, far too many to count. As you look around, you even start to notice the far away ones. But then you realize that they all shine differently. After a few minutes you start to pick out the brightest ones, about a dozen or so. Your eyes dart back and forth between them trying to connect them mentally. After doing this for a bit, you notice yourself bouncing back to the same 3 or 4 stars that seem to shine the brightest. You keep looking around trying to give each star a fair shot, but your eyes somehow always wander back to those brightest stars. Eventually, given enough time, you'll notice something peculiar about one in particular. Maybe it's the brightest, or the largest, or it has a slight tint that sets it apart. That is your star.

The stars represent countless possibilities, and the brightest one is your name. It takes time, don't rush it.

[โ€“] neo2478@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 weeks ago

The second picture if totally giving me Elle Fanning vibes, so I'd say Elle

[โ€“] apotheotic@beehaw.org 0 points 4 weeks ago

Lauren, Rachael, or Sophie/Sophia/Sofia

[โ€“] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago

Check out name meanings and find one that fits with what y'all want.

Alternatively since one of us is a fae we could give you a name we have ~~stolen~~ been given.

[โ€“] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Il just going with what my parents probably would have picked. My grandmother's names (for myself obviously). You could always look through the top 100 names for the year you were born and see if anything grabs your attention.

[โ€“] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago

Giving Brooke vibes imo

[โ€“] Calfpupa@lemmy.ml 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Mackenzie

Edit: my wife says Sophie

[โ€“] DmMacniel@feddit.org 0 points 4 weeks ago
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[โ€“] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 weeks ago

Courtney comes to mind. That might be very Gen X of me.

[โ€“] Shayeta@feddit.org 0 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

In my view, there isn't a "perfect name". There is just a big bucket of good names. You pick a name and then throughout your life you make that name yours.

Your "perfect name" isn't picked, it is built. That is why it's hard to choose. Because none of these names are really yours yet.

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