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Not a fan of ppl being naked on public.

I have zero problem with nudity, and it seems incredibly unhealthy to attach a stigma to sex the way we do. The people who point to that as a reason to be against LGBTQ+ people weren't going to support us regardless of how we dress at pride events.

My thoughts on it are that anyone who complains about "kink at pride" should be remorselessly ridiculed. Its a part of our traditions. Part of The point of pride is to publicly and proudly practice our queerness, especially those aspects which are unpalatable to capital, "respectable" society and which have been historically shunned or repressed.

its mostly rooted in corporate bullshit where everything has to be clean for little 12 year old shits to spend their parentss credit card on useless landfilling plastic crap.

Hits the nail on the head.

Also. I don't care if kids see nudity/sexually explicit content etc. It doesn't actually cause harm. Puritanical ideology harms kids, and causes them to grow up with a terrible relationship with their sexuality.

Kink doesn't belong at pride for the same reason fish don't belong in the sky.

Queerness isn't a kink; being kinky doesn't make you queer. There's no relation between these things beyond surface level performative moral outrage against them being displayed in public, which is such a superficial relation that at one point you could've used this logic to argue D&D belonged at pride.

I get that a lot of queer people use kink to explore their sexuality or relation to gender but that isn't a uniquely queer thing to do nor is it really related to their queerness in the first place. Cishet people are doing the exact same thing and in far greater numbers and were openly flaunting it long before public acknowledgement of queer people was even considered socially acceptable.

But pride can do whatever it wants. I don't really care; bright colors and large crowds aren't my thing so whether there's kink there or not I don't plan to go to a pride parade (or any parade, for that matter) so my opinion doesn't really matter much in the end.

Events should properly designate whether nsfw elements are permissible, and where. That's it. The kink at pride discourse is one massive nothing-burger designed by reactionaries as a poison pill for leftists to die defending, as in the example of transwomen in sports.

Also maybe don't hang dick and balls in public, or start fucking in the street, but beyond that a little leather or a puphood never hurt anybody.

i mean, there's a difference between having a sexual identity and being horny in public

everything has to be clean for little 12 year old shits

well...it's difficult to find a proper answer to avoid sound moralizing, spooked and stuff, maybe it depends on implementation

Isn't the number one rule of the kinks are it must happen between consenting parties including the spectators? Yes, not everything has to be sterile and SFW, but not everybody have to see it just because it is a thing.

What counts as kink is very subjective, and reactionaries abuse this lack of a strict line all the time. So it's a non-question, really. My answer to the blanket question is yes, then it's case-by-case. Also, children should understand what sex is - here we didn't have a problem with that, and I sure don't see a problem with a child seeing a celebration of humanity. What culture is the pride taking part in? What kinks in particular are we talking about? What, exactly, constitutes a pride parade in that particular case? At this point, I'm tired of this question from less well-meaning folks, so pick whatever desecrates tradition and """culture""" the most - that belongs in pride.

I have no thoughts on kink in pride because I'm not part of the LGBTQ+ community, the only thing I feel that someone in my position can do is support the movement by showing up to events, normalizing it in conversations, and denounce homophobic / transphobic comments inside and outside of my circles.

I have a few friends who are very active in the LGBTQ+ community in my city and they invited me over to one of their parties a few months back.

I was kind've taken aback by how open everyone was about things, but it also felt safe? Yeah people were definitely prepping for what was going on later that night, but I was so shocked at how open and communicative these people were with each other. Very laid back, a lot of consent being asked, a shit ton of reassuring before they went back to their room and saying it's perfectly fine if they weren't up for anything that night.

When I was in college, I joined a fraternity (which I regret for other reasons). Every semester, especially during rush week when there's hundreds of random freshmen in your house, we had to have a handful of guys every party run security. Basically keep an eye out for creeps / assaults and if it happened they'd get dragged outside, fucked up, and have their ID taken from them and handed over to the school.

This isn't even mentioning how many "brothers" got dropped after finding out they were doing creepy shit.

Idk I just went on a tangent, but I feel like whatever kinky stuff that exists is probably 1000x safer than white amerikkka's frat culture.