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Kink doesn't belong at pride for the same reason fish don't belong in the sky.
Queerness isn't a kink; being kinky doesn't make you queer. There's no relation between these things beyond surface level performative moral outrage against them being displayed in public, which is such a superficial relation that at one point you could've used this logic to argue D&D belonged at pride.
I get that a lot of queer people use kink to explore their sexuality or relation to gender but that isn't a uniquely queer thing to do nor is it really related to their queerness in the first place. Cishet people are doing the exact same thing and in far greater numbers and were openly flaunting it long before public acknowledgement of queer people was even considered socially acceptable.
But pride can do whatever it wants. I don't really care; bright colors and large crowds aren't my thing so whether there's kink there or not I don't plan to go to a pride parade (or any parade, for that matter) so my opinion doesn't really matter much in the end.
Being into kink does not make someone queer, but kink has historically been a massive element of queer culture.
Not just having sex either, the leather community was an integral part of the fight against aids and lesbian leather orgs were the first to start organizing and providing mutual aid for gay men suffering. All while the disease was still on the societal periphery. Those lesbians are the reason the L is the first letter of the acronym.
Leather bars and Ballroom drag events were also some of the first major underground events that promoted trans culture and existence, while providing safe spaces, housing, and community for abandoned youth, sex workers, and other forced to societies fringes.
When people say kink at pride they don’t mean a public display of a gimp suit bound bottom getting whipped senseless by a leather wearing dom, they quiet literally mean a guy wearing a pup hood or a bearish motorcycle dude with a big beard shirtless while wearing a leather vest.
While not entirely centered on what I’m talking about, I highly recommend the documentary Paris is Burning, it’s on YouTube for free currently.