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Are most men not whiling to adopt? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 3 months ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

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The only way I'll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.

Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn't see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.

I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.

So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they're infertile themselves but if their partner is they'll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.

Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.

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[–] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I think men generally prefer biological children if they are fertile, we are wired that way.

And I agree that it's normal for men to fear/worry that they won't love their adopted child.

But when a couple agrees on adoption and finally get the child, the parenting switch is triggered and the responsibility dawns, then men will love their adopted children. I have seen that with my aunt and uncle.

I can see why you are having a hard time finding a guy that prefers to adopt, but I am sure he is out there.

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I've even heard of couples who do love their adopted kids but their love for their bio kids is "different". I will adopt even if I'm single in the end I don't need a man to be in my side for that.