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Are most men not whiling to adopt? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 month ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

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The only way I'll ever have children is through adoption but it seems most guys want biological children.

Most of the guys I met would say that they fear that they wouldn't see an adopted child as theirs which honestly breaks my heart a little.

I did some research and apparently most adoptive parents generally chose that option because the man is infertile, not the other way around.

So it would seem like most men are only contemplating adoption if they're infertile themselves but if their partner is they'll prefer to just get a different girlfriend over adopting kids.

Let me know if you think this is not the case, I want to believe you.

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[–] whaleross@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I don't want children at all, but if I did I'd be open adopt a child. I have no need to propagate my own genes because I'm not that great that the world needs more of me in particular.

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 0 points 1 month ago

I think that a lot of people think that having a biological child would mean having a "mini me". Which sounds so weird to me... The kid is it's own whole different person, they're the same people who will get disappointed in their own kids because they didn't achieve the success in what they'd imagine they'd succeed. Parents with a lot of frustrated dreams.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah I just don't really like kids. I'd probably adopt a teenager with good grades though. Maybe a scholarship to MIT.

[–] whaleross@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why go through the teens when you can adopt an adult with a good career already.

[–] Adulated_Aspersion@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago

Hey buddy. The line is back here for adults willing to be adopted by wealthy benefactors.