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Agreed, I don't know what the other commenter is talking about. Apparently we live in completely different bubbles. In my experience, it's the norm to receive at least some support by the parents through university or young adulthood. Not only that, parents are legally required to support their children until they have finished their education, which includes university or vocational training (it's a bit more complicated than that, age plays a role and whether you drop out and start again, but the point still stands).
Many people I know lived with their parents, temporarily or completely, well after 20. Some got cars from their family, some got furniture or appliances.
I'm shocked by most of the comments in this thread and the commenter is about the only person I can relate to. After living in a few countries and jumping around income levels a bit then I think the commenter grew up in a low economic class and most of the commenters come from a more privileged economic class.
Like, read some of these comments again and imagine you're a parent with no money, you'd feel like a piece of shit if these comments were some sort of universal truth. Some people will say you shouldn't bring anyone up in the world if you're in that position but that has a really quick logical flaw: Think about your parents, then their parents, and eventually you'll find someone that "shouldn't have had children" and that basically means either the human race doesn't exist or the right to have children is only deserved to the privileged.
I know that I grew up in a very privileged bubble and I get that not everyone is in a position to financially support their children through university (the inadequate support through Bafög, mentioned in other comments here, in Germany is a whole other topic).
My point is more that almost every family I know, even the less privileged ones, did what they could to help their children. Even if there is not much you can give that's the complete opposite of cutting them off as soon as they finish school.
Yeah, after scanning more I liked this comment:
https://lemmy.world/comment/20129966
I just think some of the comments have "to the extent they're able" being very privileged economically in a way that can also put down a lot of people less well off.
I'm not sure I completely agree that out by 18 is cutting them off completely. That said, I chose to leave when I was 17 (for university somewhere else on government assistance) and my younger brother became a live at home alcoholic that would get our younger siblings drunk on school nights and cause other issues... so I probably have an unconventional interpretation.