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To what extent do you think parents should financially support their kids? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by rayoflight@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I know opinions on this vary a lot depending on the country and culture, so I’m curious what others think. Personally, I have a 22-year-old son. I bought him a house and a car, I pay for his university tuition (his grades are high enough for a state-subsidized spot, but we feel that should go to someone more in need), and I basically support him fully. We want him to focus on his studies and enjoy this stage of his life. He will finish his dentistry degree in 2028, and then we plan to finance the opening of his private practice. We’ll stop providing financial support once he’s earning enough to live comfortably on his own. I see many parents online (especially in North America) talking about kids moving out at 18, paying rent to live at home, and covering their own bills, and it honestly shocks me. That feels unfathomable to me. I believe that as parents, we have a duty to give our children a good life since we brought them into this world.

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[–] porcoesphino@mander.xyz 2 points 8 months ago

Yeah, after scanning more I liked this comment:

https://lemmy.world/comment/20129966

To the extent they are able, relative to their need. You are clearly far more able than a lot of parents who aren’t well off, like you

I just think some of the comments have "to the extent they're able" being very privileged economically in a way that can also put down a lot of people less well off.

I'm not sure I completely agree that out by 18 is cutting them off completely. That said, I chose to leave when I was 17 (for university somewhere else on government assistance) and my younger brother became a live at home alcoholic that would get our younger siblings drunk on school nights and cause other issues... so I probably have an unconventional interpretation.