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[+] omgboom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 42 points 9 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

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[–] Beacon@fedia.io 51 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Non-adhd people are like "just tell yourself you're gonna do it for five minutes, then it's easy to start." No, the getting started at all is the hardest part. It doesn't matter if it feels like a huge task or one i could complete entirely in 30 seconds. The getting started at all is often the seemingly impossible part. Depending on the task, once i get started at all then i often can keep doing it for many hours.

Non-adhd people don't understand what "executive dysfunction" means. It's precisely the directing of my actions that's dysfunctional. Once I've started i often can keep going because then i no longer have to direct myself to do the task, in fact now i would have to direct myself to STOP doing the task, which is also executive function.

[+] Stovetop@lemmy.world 21 points 9 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

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[–] lka1988@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

That all-too familiar feeling where even when I think something could be a quick 5-minute task, I decide there will be more convenient times for me to do it later and keep pushing it off.

Dishes. Fucking dishes.

"Oh, the dishwasher is clean and there's only two plates in the sink. I'll get to it tonight"

2 days later, after dishes have piled up and the dishwasher is still full of clean dishes

"....Fuck."

wave of motivation: unload dishwasher, load dirty dishes, start dishwasher, handwash things that shouldn't go in the dishwasher, feel good afterwards

later that day

"Oh, the dishwasher is clean and there's only two plates in the sink. I'll get to it tonight"

Rinse and repeat ad-nauseam.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

This is me, but with the laundry. "Where are all my pants? Oooh yeah, they're still in the dryer. I gotta empty it, but I have to get ready for work now. I'll just take out the pants I need and get to the rest later."

[–] Beacon@fedia.io 4 points 9 months ago

You're singing my song. feelsbadman.jpg

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

“just tell yourself you’re gonna do it for five minutes, then it’s easy to start.”

Five minutes later, the task is completely forgotten. But don't worry, I'll remember it - when I'm driving to work the next day and won't be back home until 9 hours later (at which point I'll have completely forgotten it again.)

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 4 points 9 months ago

Non-adhd people are like "just tell yourself you're gonna do it for five minutes, then it's easy to start." No

This should be the first thing we say when explaining ADHD

This should be featured in the sidebar of this community

[–] apprehensively_human@lemmy.ca 13 points 9 months ago

I'll get right on that after I've started

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 9 months ago

Literally me, the very moment I clicked on this.

[–] AddLemmus@lemmy.ml 14 points 9 months ago

For me, it actually started working a couple of years ago. E. g. cleaning the apartment feels overwhelming, but when I ask myself "What CAN you do?" - "I can put ONE piece of garbage into the bin." it works.

But I understand that different things work for different people. For my child, this method does not work as well, for others not at all.

[+] Stamets@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

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[–] Yppm@lemy.lol 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Wanna talk about it?

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 2 points 9 months ago

The what ?

[–] 5in1k@lemmy.zip 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I got off Zoloft and it got a million times easier to start stuff. Unless it’s chores. My major problem is finishing or following through.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Oh, interesting... Can you tell me more about your experience with Zoloft (and having ADHD)?

[–] 5in1k@lemmy.zip 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I was really sad because my dad was slowly rotting away so I got on zoloft. I completely stopped being creative and I am constantly making things or thinking about making stuff. I got off Zoloft and my motivation came right back.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

Thanks for sharing ❤️

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

Not OP, but if you're curious about other medication effects, I found an interesting, beneficial side effect to my Lexapro. Without it, I easily get songs (and sometimes phrases) stuck in my head. It can get to the point where I can't concentrate on writing, because my brain won't stop repeating the same line(s).

But with my meds, such things don't loop in my head as much. Even if something catchy attempts to cling onto my brain, I can more easily extinguish the thought and move on. It breaks up anxiety loops and obnoxious earworms with the same force, which is an absolute game-changer for me.

[–] burgermeister@sh.itjust.works 7 points 9 months ago

Forgot what I was going to get started on and now I'm anxious about it

[–] Zaphod@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 9 months ago

Idk if I actually have ADHD, but what works for me now is breaking the task down and start with the easiest thing. That usually get me going

[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 4 points 9 months ago

It can take literal hours for me to find out what is the actual first step to do something.

[–] Assian_Candor@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago

Me at my desk this morning until I realized I forgot my focalin

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago

I'm currently here

[–] Rom@hexbear.net 3 points 9 months ago

Me, getting started: Eh I don't feel like it right now, I'll do it tomorrow

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