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Losing my job. I moved closer to work. (That wasnt the goal. It was just coincidental)
When I moved from middle Connecticut to San Diego all the good Italian food was gone, yes there was sushi but no good Chinese takeout and holy shit forget about pizza. Cali pizza is nothing like CT pizza and I hated it. Don't even get me started on the mutant pile of stuff PA calls pizza.
There are a few good pizza places in San Diego, but not many. Bronx Pizza on Washington Street in Hillcrest is with trying if you haven't yet.
Went living in a small village at 1000m altitude. Despite it's colder here, I no longer cough for months around winter.
In the words of the great poet: wherever you go, there you are.
There are some things that can change. Some thigns can be measurably worse or better just based on various aspects of the place. However, if you're running from something, and that something is mostly or all you, nothing will have sustained improvement until you fix the 'you' part of that equation.
I moved around the US and later moved to Japan. I learnt this lesson the hard way. While moving to a place that fixed some things I hated about my life, the problems that were caused to me by me weren't helped until I worked on that part; it's still a work in progress.
My relationship, bought a new house sold our old one and now it seems its slowly falling apart
Just how antisocial people can be, they often feel dead inside to me. Rarely smiling, very little low effort social interaction. It eats away at my soul.
The inaccessibility of anything in the DIY and construction side of life if you don't own a business in the industry. I was used to doing woodwork without the need for a table saw, now I can't get a simple piece of wood cut accurately without being a building contractor or having my own kitted out workshop. I loved working with aluminium and used to buy from suppliers, now it's inaccessible to me.
I'm half way on this, I was just talking to my buddy about this. The last three years I worked pretty much by myself and I think it took a toll on me. Though when I'm in Japan it's a strange paradox, I feel so comfortable. Maybe because the interactions are minimal and that's all I can handle after seeing 1-3 people a day.
Moved from the south to the Midwest and my mouth still orders "unsweet tea". Some waitstaff have no idea what I mean.
If you don't specify in the south you get diabetea.
So much!
From The South and moved to the PNW.
Lack of thunder and lightning is crazy. Like I went from hearing it all the time to once or twice a year.
Being able to see snow on the mountains while it's over 60°F in the valley.
How there isn't any warm water occurring in nature.
You can't find Cuban bread in every grocery store.
Man, I have so many things that shocked me. And many still do, lol.
One of the many things you have to do is find the many hot springs of the Pacific Northwest.
Some are warm water, some are downright boiling fucking hot.
South to Midwest USA - the thunderstorms are less frequent, but way more violent. Also, cheese curds.
Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria).
It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.
I walk a lot more now that the nearest store is across the street and not 3 miles away.
I moved 100 miles, from one city to another in the same US state. Now I can't find good chinese food to save my life... Panda Express is unfortunately the best I can find.
moving from SA to Europe, I did not expect that I could feel hotter in Europe. I was naively expecting 4 months of snow coverage
Welcome to the continent that is heating up twice as fast as the rest of the world lol
When I moved from the west coast of Canada to the east coast, I was surprised how different the clouds and the sunrise looked. There are like, a lot more fluffy clouds, and the sunsets are more vivid across the entire sky.
Eye contact / greetings between strangers
*in the USA
I'm originally from the south where everyone wears plastic smiles and waves in passing and all that.
Then I went to the northeast where it's more eyes on the horizon. A smile and a wave is met with a raised eyebrow or a sneer, and friends commonly show their comfort with each other using insults.
Then out to the midwest where zero eye contact gets you stared at, but heavy eye contact is taken as a challenge. It has to be just the right amount, and I'm still trying to figure it out after years.
Here in NM, out on my walks around the neighborhood every day, I say either "good morning" or "hello" to everyone I pass, which varies from one to perhaps ten people per walk, 99% respond in same. It's not fake, it's just common courtesy to acknowledge other people. I see about half of them every day, and I know of two regulars who won't respond, so I don't say anything to them.
There was one guy who enthusiastically said "good morning!" every time for a couple of years, we even stopped and chatted briefly a couple of times. I didn't see him for an entire summer, then when I saw him again he wouldn't say hello. Then he started saying hello again, on his own. I don't push. Some people have a lot going on.
I don't know about "heavy eye contact is a challenge". At about 15 feet apart, walking toward each other look to make brief eye contact and say "good morning". By the time you've said the words, they're nearly past you, and they either respond or don't. That's all there is to it.
If I had friends who responded to a smile and a wave with a sneer, I think we wouldn't be friends for long.
you are getting sneers and glares from NorthEast USA because we hate fake pleasantries/smiles and southern nazis.
Yeah people in the NE aren't rude, they just don't care to pretend when it comes to that kind of bullshit
The way it changed my mental perception of how far apart buildings are. I moved from North Carolina to Massachusetts, and distinctly remember that the first time I went back to visit the city I grew up in, I had a reaction along the lines of "wtf, did like a bomb go off here or something?" upon seeing it, because I'd become used to buildings being taller and closer together and suddenly by contrast the parking lots with scattered short buildings and wide roads reminded me of those pictures you see of cities after a war or disaster, where there'll be a few buildings relatively intact looking surrounded by flattened grey.
Every time I go back there now, I get a really eerie feeling because even though for the most part, the buildings haven't changed at all, the place feels as if they have, like everything has been squashed vertically and stretched horizontally.
The culture of right of way between pedestrians and cars. Where I grew up, you could walk out to the double yellow and stand there and cars wouldn't give a shit. They'd just keep driving and expect you to stay out of the way.
Now where I live, if you just glance at a car when you're walking they'll stop where they are to let you cross.
It all gets very confusing for a pedestrian when you also get out of town drivers that don't adhere to that same culture.
That annoys me when cars clearly have the right of way or stop before I'm even close to crossing the road. They could be already past by the time I get there, but they stop anyway. If you keep driving and I keep walking nobody will disturb the other.
Since physical places wasn’t specified, how much nicer the threadiverse (Lemmy) is compared to Reddit, way less toxic from my experience.
Stopped drinking almost entirely, because moving also meant finding new friends (who prefer other activities than drinking).
