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I haven't really decided whether I think that meme was rape culture, but I will say that I did find it uncomfortably sexual in relation to an unconscious person. And I feel like you're really going out of your way to sanitize it after the fact.

At least to me, "seeing (sleeping) partner naked" is not the same as focusing on sexualized parts of their body. Nor is "being attracted to someone". Further, the implication was not solely that the person would have rather stayed; The meme had a definite sexual note that was entirely unnecessary to communicating that point.

I'm not going to write two responses to the same questions, and another person asked it in a much less defensive, angry way. So, you can just read this and see what your issue is:

Okay, so some good questions here that I'm glad to see on Lemmy.

So, objectification is one of those things I think men get more anxious about because they typically have less intuitive, lived experiences to understand where those boundaries ought to be assumed. Objectification is not itself inherently wrong; we are objectified when we have an assigned number for our driver's license, and we often want to be sexually objectified by our partners, as you pointed out

People tend to be uncomfortable with the reality that the wrongness of objectification is something negotiated, not statically defined with clear lines that you could show in court. In one of my other comments, I said that this element is not necessarily an issue depending on the relationship. Yes, people have those discussions throughout a relationship (ideally), and if this was something established as appropriate, that isn't much of an issue.

However, this is not two people in a relationship, this is an internet meme whose legibility is dependent on the assumptions and shared values of an audience. So, in that context, the fact that it is expected that so many of you wouldn't take issue with this (and didn't) is the problem. Women's bodies are sexually objectified culturally, which means non-sexual contexts or attributes of their bodies are constructed as sexual, i.e. when men peep on their feet like they're genetalia publicly, or when nakedness alone is considered sexual, despite that not being the case. Combined with the nuances of negotiated consent and the cultural norms of hetero relationships, that also means many (or most) cishet men do not even think about explicit consent when they're met with a situation like what is depicted in this meme, like what you just admitted to.

Though this can often lead to harm -- like being a bit rapey online and forcing women to see that most men don't worry about their consent -- that doesn't mean that all men are bad because they were socialized a particular way, since it is something that can be resolved through communication and recognition. That most men, this site included, often react indignantly at the notion that they're engaging in sexual violence even though they followed the rules, shows us that this is by no means a small issue. When I say "rape culture," this refers to the prevalent cultural norms like this that, while not normalizing sexual assault explicitly, accept constructions of women, sex, and relationships that are conducive to devaluing women and their ability to give consent; therefore normalizing sexual violence.

So, yes, this is not inherently wrong in the context of an actual relationship with healthy boundaries, communication, and respect, but is harmful in the context of an internet meme that does not consider the possibility of harm in its messaging, and whose audience by and large holds such consideration in contempt as an indictment of their moral character.