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I never really liked being in photos...

Shyness???

I have like some family photos in 2005? 2007/2008?

In some drawers somewhere...

I don't think I had any more recent ones besides like maybe aunts/uncles have them on their smartphones... during extended-family gatherings...

I have an ambivalent relationship with parents and never really intentionally asked them to like... pose for a photo... don't think I had any photos of family lol...

I have no selfies and no recordings of myself...

I cant even remember what I used to looked like or sounded like...

Like if my parents die right now... I wouldn't even have a recent photo to mourn lol

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[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

I have none because my parents were lazy, bad at organising, constsnty fatigued and didn't have dedicated shelf space to put it in. Wish I had more. We do have photobooks, they basically stopped taking photos from when I was 6/7 onwards though.

I haven't taken phptos of myself in a while because my phones were usually crap and had storage issues. Maybe i'll do it tomorrow bht with my Digital camera

I have an ambivalent relationship with parents and never really intentionally asked them to like… pose for a photo… don’t think I had any photos of family lol…

I think i asked them to take more photos once or twice, didn't amount to anything

[–] Buffalobuffalo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 months ago

Get some photos and maybe a recording of a well told story from either of them. I wish i had.

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

Very few photos. And, no video or movies at all.

I don't care, though, I don't think much about the past. I reminisce occasionally, but it's not a big part of my mental landscape. I haven't looked at the photos I do have of family at all in many, many years.

[–] Corporal_Punishment@feddit.uk 3 points 4 months ago

Born in 83.

Lots of photos in albums but as far as I'm aware, except for a video from a primary school event in 1989 there are no recordings of my in existence from prior to 2005ish.

[–] WatDabney@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 4 months ago

None to speak of.

I'm pretty sure I have some from almost random pointd throughout at least a good part of my life squirreled away somewhere, but I couldn't tell you where.

My favorite ex-girlfriend has a bajillion pictures of me, since she takes photos constantly and always wants people in them, so I was the most common subject for a time. I never even really looked at them then though, and now they're on the other side of the country (though if they were here, I still probably wouldn't look at them).

It's not so much that I dislike them or anything - I've just never really seen the point, and never even really think about it.

[–] pedz@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Lots. I was born in the 80ies and my parents took lots of pictures when I was a baby. My sister was born a few years later, and there was also lots of pictures. We have albums full of pictures that I ended up scanning and digitizing. My father was also somewhat of an enthusiast for video cameras and he bought a BetaCam by the end of the 80ies, and a few other ones until the beginning of the 2000s.

So I have videos of my childhood from my first years of school to being a teenager. He was filming at Christmas, at birthdays, and sometimes at random events. He often just set the camera in a corner and filmed for the length of a Beta tape.

I digitized all of the Beta cassettes into mp4s during the pandemic and now I offer USB drives to people of the family that don't have any videos of when my grandparents were alive.

Plus, my maternal grandfather also filmed some gatherings and events. So I also have digitized videos of them in the 60ies and 70ies.

Ironically most of us never liked to be taken in photos, or filmed, but I'm kind of glad we still have them. If I compare to my friends, apparently, I have a "treasure trove" of videos and pictures.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Damn, I wish my life was this documented...

I don't even have a journal, don't even remember what exactly 8 year old me was thinking at the time... ironically I didnt write because privacy reasons... now I'm not sure if I should regret it or not...

I should've just used a cipher to write...

but I was too paranoid... or maybe just too lazy...

[–] pedz@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago

In the end though, it's not making much of a difference aside from nostalgic value. There's a minimal maintenance to it too. My parents still have the cassettes and the Betamax VCR stored somewhere. Physical photo albums also have to be stored. We don't want to get rid of them but they're kind of useless now. It's around 200 GBs of files to be kept.

It's also a bit cringe to see yourself being a stupid kid on video. Or read what you wrote in a journal on a floppy disk in the mid 90ies. I went to watch a few minutes because we mentioned it but it's not something any of my family members return to regularly. It's just stuff that now sits there. Nice and nostalgic to watch every few years or decade, but not healthy to keep returning to it.