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Ariana Grande looks fine (lemmy.cafe)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Talonflame@lemmy.cafe to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I'm tired of seeing this double standard where if a man has a collarbone visible nobody bats an eye but god forbid a woman has some bone showing, she must automatically be starving herself or unhealthy. It's like no matter what a woman's body looks like, she just can't win. She has to be in this extremely narrow range or she's either anorexic or morbidly obese. I used to have Ariana's body type. I had prominent abs and had the most energy I had in my life back then. BMI is wildly inaccurate, too. You could have a BMI of 20 while having a body fat percentage in the obese range. Women aren't supposed to weigh as much as men at the same height, they have less muscle which is also the reason why Asian BMI over 23 is considered overweight or obese since they're supposed to be lighter

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[–] WallsToTheBalls@lemmynsfw.com 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Nobody:

This post: SHE LOOKS FINE 😭

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Nobody nothing?

[–] Talonflame@lemmy.cafe -5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Look up videos of her on YouTube or TikTok and you'll see lots of people acting like she's on death's door just because some of her bones are visible.

[–] WallsToTheBalls@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 9 months ago

Ah, see, your first mistake was caring what people on YouTube or TikTok think about… well much of anything

[–] some_designer_dude@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

Do keep in mind that TikTok and YouTube “people” are often just bots. Or people dumb enough to label as bots.

[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

It’s often said that opinions are assholes, everyone has one and they all stink. I’d like to make an addition though; I only want to take a peak at a select few of those assholes. Stay away from YouTube drama and the TMZ ilk. They’re all vultures.

[–] bufalo1973@piefed.social 2 points 9 months ago

The real range between anorexic and obese is much wider than some say. But IMHO she is below her weight. I'm not saying that's bad or good. Just my (I repeat: my) opinion. After all, it's her body and her life.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 2 points 9 months ago

At best, I think some well-meaning people are overreacting to the unrealistic body standards that women are judged by. You’re right, though. She’s only 5’ 1”. She’s just smaller than average. Relax, people. It’s not an issue.

[–] serpineslair@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I don't think many people would argue with the title of your post, if anything I would say she fits that narrow range.

[–] owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 1 points 9 months ago

I imagine the overreaction is more of a sensationalized social media thing than anything. Same as headlines that use words like "SLAMMED". Whatever it takes for the clicks.