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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Yea at least with my facial hair, I feel better each time I have an electrolysis session. I've definitely grown addicted to the results, even if it is slow going. I can only do 2 hours a month since my electrologist is only around for a week at a time each month. I'll definitely keep y'all updated, I'd like to do a total review of my overall experience at some point.
Girl truuuu lol a time machine would do wonders! I had a viewpoint before I actually started transitioning where I was like "I know that if I ever do transition, I am absolutely getting bottom surgery". So it helped that the decision was pretty much already made. What did surprise me is that I was about 98% sure that I just wanted a minimal-depth procedure. But I was never able to feel 100% in that decision and because of that, I forced myself to reconsider my rationale and I realized that I was leaning more toward convenience rather than what I actually wanted. So I'm now getting PIV and I'm at 100% with it. In that way, I'm kinda thankful for my mental breakdown when I was looking at a 3 year wait since it forced me to think about alternatives.
I've strongly leaned towards it from the moment I came out to myself, never thought I shouldn't do it, but think I put the actual decision off a bit, because I knew I'd have to wait anyway. Had all these rationalizations, like, yeah sure it makes sense to have to wait for so long because it's such a big deal and there's no way back. For most of my life I just didn't allow myself to have wishes that I thought impossible (like being a girl in the first place).
But fuck that. I want it and I want it now, that's what it is. I've been fantasizing about this for years, way before I realized I'm trans. Hell, teen me even wondered if they'd be better in some way without that thing. Can't even say I'm 100% certain it's the right call, but I definitely don't want to spent the rest of my life wondering.
Huh, that's the same reason why I considered minimal-depth... Can't say I'm super excited about having to dilate for the rest of my life or the infection risks, but I just hope it'll be worth it.
Wow, it brought the wait down ~2 years for you? Now I want a mental breakdown x).
Also wish hair removal would be faster, I'll be so darn happy when this is done. Chin hair is so stubborn, yikes.
Thanks for sharing, can't wait for your updates :)
For real. It may seem like I'm rushing through my transition and, from the outside perspective, that I'm being rash and not thinking things through. But in reality, these feelings have just been at critical mass for a long time, I just didnt say anything about it until now. So it sucks to be at the point where I need things to happen now but also need to wait for loved ones and the medical process to catch up.
Inaction is still action. I know what that life is like and it doesn't work, so why sit stagnant in it when I could do something to maybe make life better.
Same. I just couldn't close off the possibility without experiencing it first. I don't want to disappoint myself later on because I cannot satisfy cravings that I could have because my anatomy doesn't allow for it. And to have that due to a choice I made would probably induce a different type of dysphoria.
Yea super fun, highly recommend... Lmao I am thankful that transitioning unlocked this sassy, spicy, bitchy side of me that helps propel my self advocacy. Not getting surgery this winter was not going ti be an option with the plans my wife and I have made moving forward. So I'm so psyched that I was able to find an alternative who is reputable, experienced, and comfortable.
Yeah, think that's the same for me. At the start there may even have been some truth to it, like I was so eager to get into the permanent changes that I'd get that sunken cost fallacy going and wouldn't think about chickening out. The typical cis urge to get irreversibly changed to the opposite gender and then having to live with it, huh 😅.
But well, I was insanely good at repressing these feelings, even though they've been there for a very long time. Now I've been on this journey for more than 6 months now and haven't really thought about stopping for a single second.
Awwww giiiiirl, I couldn't have dreamt of the confidence I got from finding my true self, it's really insane, isn't it? <3
I'm psyched for you too! And jealous, ofc :3