Ask Lemmygrad

My child barely out of diapers was abused by their cousin, 2-3 years older. What adults do to children and convince them not to tell through bribes and/or shame, their brains can't process. Adults can't even face it and completely process it, they were physically and/or emotionally abandoned as children, don't know how to cope, either can't access or won't stick with therapy long enough to to go through the excruciating part, so self-abandon, through drugs, alcohol, TV, overwork, dissociation, overeating, undereating, over and under-exercise and endless scrolling.

Or maybe the child brain doesn't light up in certain areas and other regions aren't developed to compensate, for various reasons.

So the answer will vary, depending on who you are questioning, for the "overlooking." Societal and familial psychodynamics certainly play a part, but also systemic social structure and support plays an equally important part. And since society is structured to give the very wealthy disproportionately large advantages and everyone else disproportionately large disadvantages, that's why social structures exist as they do.