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It is true that it is easier to meet partners at these activities than, like, sitting on your couch scrolling through TikTok on your phone.
But that's because the people who are into meeting up to do things want to do the things themselves. It's very easy to see through the people who are interested in the thing only as a stepping stone towards something else, versus the people who are actually there to enjoy the thing.
If you can't show up to a meetup and have a great time despite there not being any available/single people you find attractive, you're gonna be the kind of dud that isn't attractive even when a potential partner shows up.
People should pursue hobbies and interests. It is fulfilling in itself, and makes you more attractive to others and puts you in contact with more people to have more opportunities to meet partners. But you gotta be the type of person to want to do it anyway, even if there is zero prospect of meeting a partner.