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I am absolutely done. Try to post anything I need help on and I get downvoted just for asking a fucking question on Reddit. And people are so rude to people with different pronouns like, they/them but especially neopronouns or whatever they’re called, like fae/faer and xe/xem.

Mention my boyfriend is sapphic nonbinary masc? Someone says something absolutely fucking rude about non-binary people and how they hate Gen Z and how I need professional mental help and that they’re “not leftist enough” for xe/xem pronouns and therefore they can’t respect their pronouns.

Some of these people claim to be LGBTQ+ too. For shame. Furthermore, rather than ignore and it respect the person, they say rude shit about my being poly too and how it’s “not natural” and the same recycled homophobic rhetoric from YEARS ago.

I’m done. I’m done, fuck. And people are saying I’m a jerk and a bad person for wanting to leave my boyfriend, as if I should just let myself be sad. People don’t like me, and I’m done being nice. Pardon me, I’m off my meds and very ranty today, but MY GOD I’M PISSED FROM HAVING TO HOLD BACK MY TRUE FEELINGS!

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[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Thanks for your vent. Let it out, then you can give yourself a chance to collect yourself. Also, fuck Reddit, and tell off even the Lemmy users that say you can't be you.

If someone's pronouns are too much for me to remember then I'll just say "Hey you". Easy as that. No need for bullshit excuses.

I'm not good at giving dating advice and I'm not LGBTQ+ so take it with a massive grain of salt, but anytime someone asks me about big questions or decisions in their life, I tend to say these three steps:

First, figure out what it really is you want. Short term, long term, career, dating life, whatever.

Second, think of how you can get or achieve that. You can then self-assess whether your wants are realistically attainable and how long or how much effort it may take.

Third, try to find who can help you get or achieve the things you want, or even help you discover what you want where you're unsure. This is where you can assess whether the people in your life, work etc. are helpful or a hinderance to your goals and needs. Having the right people to support you will make any accomplishment easier to attain.

Try to do it in a calm state, you don't have to suppress emotions but just be honest with yourself, so that you can get a better picture of where you want to go from here.