Comradeship // Freechat

I'm going away for a weekend with my right wing friends, who I'm not sure I like anymore. But it's hard when they're your only friends. I've realised I probably can't change their opinions, all I can do is push back if they say something offensive. I really need to make new friends, but when I get into a new friend group eventually we drift apart. This happened to a queer friend group I had, which sucks because I could go clubbing with them, which I don't really do with these friends. Now I go alone although I think I could go clubbing with one or two of these friends if I asked.

This friend group is the only one that stayed. This friend group is very autistic as well, and it is still the only group where I don't feel judged for my autism. So that makes it difficult. I can have fun with them, but get bored with them as well. But tbh, it could also be because of one person in the group I don't like who is the one who makes all the plans, because he and I have different opinions on having fun. He is very controlling as well and if you don't say anything he will decide things for you, which is hard if you're non-confrontational like me. I once went on a two week holiday with him which was hell, in which I decided to never make plans with him where it's just me and him. I can only sort of tolerate him if we're together in a group.

I can vibe more with the other friends, but like I said they're very right wing and very vocal about it. They loudly complain about everything, like my friend who drives a car and is very car brained. He's from a small village and everytime he picks us up by car he complains about the bikes and pedestrians, and thinks his car deserves more right of way. Like my man, you're driving through the city center, what did you expect? Another friend votes for a transphobic party (FvD) even though he's friends with me, a trans woman. It felt like betrayal. I thought that me being trans would slowly make them more progressive, but that doesn't seem to happen. It could be the case that they use it as an excuse, like "it's okay to vote for a transphobic party, I have a trans friend".

Even if I decide to keep this friend group, I really need to get some other friends as well. Because I feel so lonely like I don't have friends, even though I have them. That made me realise I can't really consider them my friends, if they can't get rid of that feeling.