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[โ€“] promitheas@programming.dev 2 points 1 month ago

You seem quite angry with me. You didn't even stop to proofread.

Drinks were drunk, and editing on mobile with my fat fingers is a pain ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜‚. Also, not angry, sorry if it came across that way.

As for the rest of your comment, I disagree about the consent being ok based on the age difference, but agree about the power imbalance part. The acceptable age difference in my opinion is:

If both people are underage, a 2 year difference sounds reasonable as you said (but only if both are underage at the start of the relationship, otherwise grooming). If both are adults, have at it, get with a 70 year old the day after you turn 18 if you wish.

My point is Im personally staunchly against separating and mixing different ages for being legally able to do different stuff. While not how nature works, laws need to be written in such a way that they apply the same to everyone, so even if I mature/develop my brain 5 years after you do for example, we both need to have the threshold age be the same for adulthood. Once thats understood and agreed upon, we now need to determine what said threshold age will be. I brought up the example of the USA in my comment above, where they are legally allowed to drive, die/kill for the government, and drink at different ages. I believe youre either an adult or not, at least in the eyes of the law (or at least thats how it should be)