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Something that's not super controversial, but you still really stand by it.

Why YSK: There is a lot of cortisol going on right now. A lot of people are stressed, angry, and afraid. Those emotions all deserve to be felt, but over time, cortisol becomes neurotoxic (inflicting permanent damage on the hippocampus).

Oxytocin (responsible for feelings of love, attraction, affection, etc) is a perfect foil to cortisol. If you notice yourself feeling angry or afraid for an amount of time that bothers you, adding some oxytocin to the situation might be helpful.

Luckily for us, our biology makes oxytocin pretty easy to come across. Different activities work better for different people, but cuddling with a pet or loved one, watching cute cat videos, or having sex work for a lot of people.

Here are a few interesting sources for further reading, if you are curious.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33632072/ https://www.nature.com/articles/srep30187 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5619133/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33632072/

In light of the conversations sparked by recent trans-exclusionary policy updates, we thought it would be prudent to have a wiki page to collect resources that offer support for LGBTQIA+ individuals. It can be found at https://exmormon.miraheze.org/wiki/LGBTQIA+

We started the page with a few resources, but we would love some help aggregating more resources. If you know of a high-quality LGBTQ-friendly resource, please consider updating the page or commenting/messaging it here.

And of course, the primary intention of the page is to help potentially vulnerable and marginalized people feel hope and support. Especially if you have been negatively affected by the church, you're not alone. You deserve love and support.

A friend and I have finally created a public exmormon wiki that's free for anyone to read and edit!

When I was deconstructing, I really wished there was a hub for all of the resources I needed. There is a ton of valuable content scattered around the internet, but it would have been great to have a one-stop-shop. So we made the resource I wish I had.

The (brand new) wiki at https://exmormon.miraheze.org/ is meant to accomplish this purpose. This wiki is designed to aggregate (as a community) our favorite community resources, historical and current events, essays about mormonism, and anything else that would be of value to someone experiencing a faith crisis or deconstruction.

This wiki is published in such a way that it can be available to anyone, free, forever. A nonprofit called Miraheze is generously willing to host our open-source MediaWiki site, and a plan for future-proofing the wiki is in the works (see a draft of our ideas and policies here).

As with any project like this, the greatest support needed right now is content generation and compilation. If you'd like to contribute, here are some ideas for (relatively painless) ways to do so:

• If you are posting or commenting with a very in-depth comment (with sources and meaningful insight) in this community, consider adding your remarks to the wiki as a new page (or an addition to an existing page) so that it has a longer lifespan. The creative-commons license of the wiki means there's no copyright licensing issue.

• If you've conducted research as part of your deconstruction, consider adding that research into the wiki. Pages don't need to be polished right off the bat; the important part is having resources available.

• If you have bookmarks of resources that have been valuable to you, consider adding links to the wiki.

• If you've been following a relevant news story or feel passionate about one, add a page about it starting with links to news articles.

• If you host or participate in an exmormon community (online or in-person), consider adding its details to the Communities page.

• If you are an exmormon content creator, consider adding (objective and fact-based) details about where people can find your content.

• If you've wanted to write your own "CES Letter"-type publication but haven't out of fear of judgment or lack of technical know-how, consider adding that content to the wiki.

Please feel free to contribute without fear. Just like other wikis, it's free and pretty simple to add and edit contents, and it's really hard for a public user to permanently damage the wiki. If you have questions or concerns, I'm active on Lemmy and my wiki talk page.

Of course, this wiki isn't meant to replace this community or any other resource. Rather, it's meant to give a long lifespan and improved visibility/accessibility to content that can support someone in their faith journey.

Thanks for your attention and time, and thanks for contributing to the wholesome community we have here. <3

So. Without trauma dumping, I'll simply say my dad is a bad dad. What's a father's day gift that says "you're dead to me, but I'm still doing things to keep drama at bay"?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/15464125

"Thought-Terminating Cliches"

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/13804022

Happy Easter