I don't see a world where I use flatpak as my default...
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joined 10 months ago
Little Corellas to be specific
Transphobia
@thoughtfuldragon @princessnorah Yep. But it's not opened up to everyone at the moment. Not happy enough with friendicas scalability, and don't really want to have to moderate another space.
But I love the way it handles timelines, and the way it integrates microblogging and threadiverse fedi content
> transitioning children via pharmaceuticals is that great
Good thing it doesn't happen then hey?
But still, people want to "just talk about it" as if it does.
And you know, when you're the target of endless bullshit and lies spread about you, so much so that people who don't know any better parrot and perpetuate the bullshit, whilst crying out how hard done by they are when people push back against them for repeating the harmful bullshit they don't understand... You know, when that happens enough, you kinda get sick of it...
The issue is, there are a large amount of people "JAQ"ing off (Just Asking Questions), sealioning and trolling. And no amount of engagement and discussion with those folk will change their minds, because they're not open to that. And worse than that, it also normalises the idea that trans rights, trans identities etc are up for debate. So these sorts of engagements do harm, by making folk more comfortable airing "mild" anti trans opinions.
And of course, not everyone engaging in these discussions and topics is doing so in bad faith. Some people can be turned around. But research has shown that even when folk are acting in good faith, they still have a tendency to double down on harmful opinions when challenged, because facts don't change minds. Emotions do. So until we can know the outcome before engagement, we're more likely to make things worse than better.
And that's why on blahaj.zone, it's a non starter. Blahaj zone communities are intended to be safe spaces, where folk can get away from discussions about whether we deserve the same rights as other folk, and whether our identities are real, and whether it's ok to exclude us from parts of society. We explicitly do not have the goal of educating people, because that is a huge emotional burden, that doesn't really pay off most of the time.
If you want to change minds, the ways to do it are in the immediate social circles around you. The people that know you are the most likely to be "brought around" and they will be brought around by you simply existing on their radar, and making emotional space for you. The other way to do it is social friction. Protests, shutdowns, pushbacks etc. These are especially effective when they come from allies. Basically, when you make a social context in which trans discriminatory positions have negative repercussions, people are less likely to voice those opinions, and the opinions are less likely to be normalised.
The goal of blahaj.zone spaces is to create exactly that social context. And honestly, I think that banning someone who holds misinformed, but harmful opinions is more likely to change their mind, than a civil debate. It's a low chance either way, but at least banning them sends a clear message.
I'm not sure I get much of it anymore. I think it's more a lack of dysphoria. I still get moments of dysphoria, and moments of euphoria, but they feel like part of the background hum of life, rather than at the forefront
@oftheair I don't know what is going wrong with the UI recently. You can access it through apps or alternative front ends until we get to the bottom of it.
@DiaDeLosMuertos I mean, you didn't just pick one of the reasons, you got them all! You definitely deserve a prize!
You're not getting one, but you deserve one!
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@dandelion It definitely goes away. For a while, I sort of had a dual awareness. Everything was new and different, but I could also feel everything the way it used to be. I could tell which parts used to be where by sensation alone.
But those days are long gone now. There's no more dual sensations.