Hey all. Getting right to it:
Last November, a majority of my wife's family voted trump. I immediately made known my disgust and that I had no interest in maintaining relationships with any of them. My wife is equally appalled, but family is important to her and she chooses to compartmentalise it for the sake of their relationships. That's her call. Typically, her mother comes to stay at our house for an extended period as we live far away, and this year I tolerated her being here for the sake of my wife.
But now, thinking about the next visit and how bad things have gotten, I can't even stand the thought of having her in my house, let alone being in the same room as her. I really don't want her here at all, but I will again tolerate her for my wife's sake. However I think it's likely that I will make myself pretty scarce during that time.
So the ethics question is - given that I expressed my distaste after the election but still remained cordial, is it ok, ethically speaking, to become more resentful as the consequences of their actions become more apparent? Or, given that what has happened since is pretty much out of everyone's hands, am I locked in to the level of hostility I showed immediately after?
I guess the distilled version is - a person does X, I express disapproval. Is it ethical to express MORE disapproval as additional unforeseen consequences of X become apparent?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Edit to Clarify - My mother in law is not MAGA and I don't think she's enjoying any of it. She thinks we can "just not talk about it" and everything will be fine. However she has become more racist and judgemental (anti-trans etc) in recent years. Hates Joe Biden and Kamal Harris but can't or won't say why. Thanks for the responses so far and I'll try to respond, but I'm about to start work shortly.
That's a shit take. The reason things are so shit today is because in so many places you have one person doing the job of 3, as employees leave, some poor bastard scrambles to cover them, then management just doesn't bother replacing them so they and the shareholders can pocket that salary, leaving the remaining employee permanently overextended.
Or because an engineer will design a product, along with materials, testing, and manufacturing specs, and then management will use cheaper materials or cut out some testing and quality assurance because they can rest on their brand name, or their monopoly, then pocket the difference for themselves and the shareholders.
And even if none of those things apply, chances are you've got someone who worked their way through school and university with the idea that they'd eventually get a career with stability and income growth, only to end up in precarious employment, working stupid hours in shitty conditions, making only barely enough to survive if they're lucky - forget about saving or disposable income - again, because instead of investing in employee well-being, all those profits are being funneled to overpaid executives and shareholders.
If you can think of something that's been enshittified (everything), you can pretty much always draw a direct link back to greedy, overpaid executives, and shareholder profits.