Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.

And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

We have !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Community wise we have !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al its a women only community by women for women.

[–] StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I've lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.

[–] mholiv@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

EDIT: Look at the responses to this comment for the proof.

100%

It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.

Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.

It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy tracked vehicle enthusiasts.

I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.

Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “everyone has that why think about women” or “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

[–] drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

you mean the comments that have been downvoted to the bottom?

[–] misteloct@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Oh yea? One time I got kicked in the balls and it kinda hurt. Women have it soooo easy.

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

that's kind of just how controversial things are on the internet though.

Evens shitposting from men will get similar responses from women, it's just how it is now. Sort of always has been.

[–] mholiv@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

THIS. EXACTY THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN.

Me: talks about issue disproportionately affecting women.

Lemmy User: It’s not really about women. Everyone suffers from this.

[–] AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

yep it's pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there's dozens of comments saying "what about the men" and completely missing the point

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As a guy, I do recognise that men are disadvantaged in many areas and need to be put on equal footing with women-- like courts disproportionately award custody of children to mothers, regardless of how unfit the mother is to be a caregiver. But broadly speaking from my pespective, women are still at more disadvantage. I used to live in a bad part of my city for many years and have had little to no issues. However, it is a different story from women I spoke who got harrased, and another hit on the head. They said they will avoid going to the city ever again. I remember sharing the accounts of these women to other men, and the men were surprised because their experience is the complete opposite. Women are still seen as weak. And in the corporate hierarchy, men (of tall statures) disproportionately make up the board of directors and executive roles.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Man, I have been in SO MANY internet arguments where I am simultaneously arguing against a woman that yes, men have problems, while also arguing against a man that no, those problems are not worse on the whole than women have.

Back when the whole "bear in the woods" thing was going around misogynists would try to jump in and support me.

Woman: "all men are rapists"

Me: "that's insulting and hurtful and misandrist, and also not even close to true"

Misogynist: "Yeah! And also women are heartless bitches!"

Me: "I don't remember asking YOU a goddamn thing"

[–] Eiri@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn't aware the ones we currently have were for men

[–] Tonuka@feddit.org 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It's a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it's not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.

The fediverse could really use that energy.

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's also /r/WitchesVsPatriarchy which is also very strictly woman-centered.

[–] Genius@lemmy.zip 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn women appropriating witchdom. Excluding boywitches just reaffirms the patriarchy's gendering of magic. It's re-inventing the same gender roles.

[–] Nuxleio@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, what?

It's women-centered because it's "against patriarchy"... not because it's witchy. And they are trans & queer inclusive as well.

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[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah but thats a subreddit not REDDIT itself, you can similarly start a /c/TwoX on just about any Lemmy instance.

[–] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

its kinda sad how one of the biggest women’s community on the lemmy/mbin side of fedi is !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone…

i mean, it’s a great community, but yea.

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There seems to be a majority of males even in that community though

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you talking about browsers/commentors? Cause almost all the prolific posters are women, unless you're being transphobic

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't know any of them and would not even recognize their usernames. Just be real, there can't be that many women, it's just not consistent with Lemmy's userbase. To me that sub draws more attention from men who view it as a fantasy. Read the comments and the posts, many of them don't seem legitimate

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Erotador, totallynotjessica, kewwwi, and squirrel are by far the people who post most there and they're all women.

My yin, I'm the one with the blahaj zone account here

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

i can assure you that the majority of regular posters on femcelmemes are in fact women, and many of the regular commenters as well. this is in part because of the wonderful dedicated group of posters who keep the vibe immaculate, and if it werent for femcelmemes, myself, and many other women would be much less active on lemmy.

[–] Lemgen@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Create one!

[–] umbraroze@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Speaking in general: Creating communities/instances is easy. Moderating them is hard.

In particular: I would love to create women's spaces. But then I'd have to be on the lookout for the Knights of the True Fedora. They're out there. Somewhere. Now now, I'm not suggesting it'd be a daily problem! ...But the actual daily problems (regular spam and whatnot) would suck too.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 year ago

I'm in charge of !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al I've got to say the vast majority of men have been fantastically supportive! Odd comment and spite downvote but it's manageable

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women's communities. It's not like there's any way to verify the user's gender anyway.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

You really don't see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It's one of the most fundamental human desires.

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Lemmy,blahaj,zone is run by Ada, who is a woman

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 year ago

And terrible at adminning

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

I wish I could recommend blahaj, there are a lot of trolls in the space that the admins have successfully been guilted into supporting.

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Ahhh, now that explains a lot.

[–] nomy@lemmy.zip 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Like what?

[–] MITM0@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

I rememebered Blahaj people accusing Lemmy instances of being misogynists left & right without any evidence

& were censoring anyone, just because they asked for evidence.

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