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3 hrs worth of a professional home cleaning service.
I wanna just throw my support behind this one, if there's a local service that does gift cards (and maybe even cleans dishes) this is an amazing option for new parents.
That's a really good idea thanks 😊
Earplugs, they have nice ones made for concerts that reduce dB levels instead of just cutting all sound, could be handy
It really depends on the colleague. But cash is always nice to have(regardless how tacky it may feel) so that they can get what they want/need. Babies grow very quickly and your colleague might be drowning in handmedowns (this goes for toys/clothing/certain accessories).
This is the best answer. Sixty quid in a card is much better than any items to the same value
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish - helped me a lot, still does when I have the presence of mind to communicate effectively. I didn't spend a lot of time around kids until I had one, so a lot of this stuff didn't come naturally to me.
That and The Book With No Pictures by BJ Novak. Really fun way to get a kid to be able to enjoy books without the comfort of art on every page. And the first years are the most crucial with regard to being read to.
vouching for "the book with no pictures", but maybe when they are 3-4 yo.
That's when they'll get the most out of it, but babies need to be read to. It helps them a lot, can't be overstated. Take it from me, my kid has severe ADHD but he's a stronger reader than most of his classmates.
ah I'm not disputing that! By all means read to them. I'm just saying that when they are babies and toddlers imho it's better something with some pictures. I think it makes more fun to them as they learn to point to things as well.
Booze and caffeine.
Depending on how close you are, a cheeky gift of prophylactics might get a smirk, but yeah, pretty much anything that offsets/diminishes the daily function task load would be a godsend. Laundry, tidying, sleep, meal prep, etc. 🖖🏼
Hard to say because for every useful suggestion, there's a chance somebody else has already bought it. Some things I'd have found useful - a nappy changing setup, with plenty of nappies and wipes and cream and maybe a changing mat. Sleeping bags. Boring clothes (vests, onesies). Professional cleaner. Takeaway voucher. If you can check what they already have that would help. Or if all else fails, get nappies and wipes.
The one certain piece of advice I can give is DON'T BUY TOYS.
So many toys...
Ahhhh I was gonna get a personalised teddy bear as part of the present. Good tips there thanks
Maybe I'm being too much of a downer. My wife loves the mountain of teddies. She's not the one who has to find somewhere to store them all though...
No i think you're right play it safe and don't get them yet another toy
Diapers. Lots of them.
When my brother had his first child, we spent a Sunday cooking up a load of meals, portioning them up into those foil takeaway containers (cheap on eBay) and freezing them and then gave them those.
They said they were a god send, it meant that they didn't have to think about preparing dinners whilst they were coping with the new born.