Don't worry these thoughts are totally cis. You can just say "still cis tho :3" and then it's clear that there's nothing eggy going on, I do it all the time
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Eh I don't really like honorifics. I like people to just use my name.
Fun story time! The suffix -tor is actually, historically, used for men, i.e, aviator, doctor, etc. There exists another suffix, -trix, that isn't used much at all anymore, but for women. You may know of one of the only remaining uses of this suffix (that I know about) in the form of "dominatrix". This has been your antiquated vocabulary lesson. Test on Friday, homework due on Thursday.
Does that mean the male version of Beatrix is Beator? As in meat beator
Beatrix would (I think) mean “she who is blessed” in Latin, with the masculine being Beatus (which, while it sounds like a joke redneck name today, is seen in the title of European religious music, and is pronounced in three syllables as “bee-ate-us”)
I have a good friend in Rome named Beatus Meatus…
Do you find his name... risable?

I think Beatus/Beata are the blessed. I think Beator/Beatrix would be the blesser?
My Latin is rusty.
Wouldn't it be Bee-ay-toos? Mind you i haven't taken a Latin class in like 15 years
If you pretend it’s Italian and just pronounce all the vowels one by one, you’ll get a very passable interpretation of ecclesiastical Latin.
Ah catholic school hired a classics major so I was taught classical pronunciation alongside vocabulary not befitting a church or modern setting
I have heard phallatrix used as a euphemism (bc if it’s in Latin it’s fine…)
“Freshie” “Bachelor” & my fav.

Honestly that’s probably the third best reason to get a doctorate I have ever heard.
The best is “I really want to spent four years researching this super specific stuff”.
The second best is “I’m interested in an academic career”.
All the others are worse.
There should be more widespread gender-neutral titles, for those fence-sitting centrists who aren’t interested in defending normative gender roles but don’t have the wherewithal to transition.
Having said that, if “Dr.” is an example, “Mr.” would become gender-neutral, with “Mrs.”/“Ms.” becoming archaisms like “Doctrix”. The other alternative is further generalising the relatively novel title Mx, which would also have the benefit of infuriating the TERFs
i think the trouble with making the masculine versions the new neutral is that it can 1. come across as erasing women/non men and 2. can feel especially offensive to transfems. so while it would be an easy solution, it might not be the best.
on the other hand, i try to do my part and for example only use actor and waiter and never actress and waitress :3
english is very nice for how few gendered words it has (unlike some horrible other languages ;w;) and i love to try to speak completely gender neutral
I'd like to make Sir gender neutral.
Or madam!
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Yeah we already had a time where male titles were the default.
I too have earned a gender neutral pronoun. Makes me sound like a pompous ass of I were to insist it be used in everyday company.
I'd need more specifics but I don't necessarily see any contradictions in those statements. Your gender identity could align with your sex at birth and you present as such in social situations, but you don't want the bias that comes with Ms./Mr. (or, God forbid, Mrs.) in professional or impersonal situations.
For example, seeing Mr./Ms. somewhere on a CV or reference letter triggers ingrained patriarchal bias even with the best intentions.