I can’t think, I’m too focused on the descenders…
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The descenders?
shinY haPPY PeoPle
My understanding as 
is that humans in general are actually very bad at telling when someone is flirting and such:
I seriously wish all of that social construct stuff was just dissolved and we could just be honest. Like "hey i wanna date you" "ok" or "hey i wanna date you" "no thank you" "alright it's all good."
Why would I ever date you ;)
If I had to speculate, I'd bet fear of rejection has a lot to do with it and that the ones who are doing the majority of flirting also tend to have the least fear of rejection.
It reminds of a thing I once read. Was somebody writing it on the internet IIRC, so could have been BS. But it went something like: Their strategy on dating apps was very overtly sexual about what they were looking for. The kind of overt that a lot of people would find off-putting. But the person themself was not put off by this because every so often, it would work and someone would show interest back.
It's not how I'd recommend behaving, but I think it paints a picture of the kind of person who would tend to be comfortable flirting a lot.
By contrast, most people are probably going to fall more in the realm of: Not wanting to flirt too overtly so that it feels less like a rejection if someone doesn't respond in kind and not wanting to assume they're being flirted at when they're not because that could be extra embarrassing as a rejection. Leading them to flirt in less obvious, more ambiguous ways, which only compounds the problem from both ends.
There's a painfully awkward scene exemplifying this in the TV show The Office. One character tries to flirt with another, another flirts back. Then the one character asks the other out on a date, but still in a jokey way and the other character is receptive. It comes crashing down when the one character tries to clarify that the date is real but pre-emptively acts like it isn't, even though they wanted it to be real, and the other character, who is now embarrassed, says they weren't serious about it even though they were. Because neither could face the embarrassment of rejection, they faked each other out.
Absolutely, and tying it back to OP's post, good example of how someone can literally be in a relationship and break up without realizing it
I've come to learn that 99% of the time it is a joke but for the sake of safety I take it as a joke 100% of the time which means I don't pick up on both actual flirting and fake flirting (better safe than sorry)
I like romance and they're not making dramas like they used to
JUST LET ME SHIP MY FAV CHARACTERS IN PEACE GODDAMMIT
Many romantic/sexual relationships were once platonic, and in each case a change in quantity led to a change in quality.
as an allosexual person, my theory is that people in the allosexual spectrum are horny af and wicked gooners, specially in the internet, so that probably is cause of frustration for the rest of the world
What does allosexual mean? Forgive my ignorance on the matter.
Not asexual (i.e., they experience sexual attraction)
Volcel?
I'm not sure if you're joking, so I'll respond seriously. Celibacy does not map with whether a person experiences sexual attraction. Someone who is asexual might have other reasons (e.g., romantic attraction) to have sex with someone, and obviously there are plenty of allosexual virgins in spite of their sexual attraction.
People are way too horny online these days.
Honestly sometimes it doesn't even have to be platonic nor casual, they could actually legitimately despise each other and people will go "oh they like each other actually"
Horniness, projection of some internal desire? Zero experience with the opposite gender? Idk