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What is this called? Is it a situationship or something? (discuss.online)

submitted 4 months ago by IHatePepRallies@discuss.online to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I have this one girlfriend and this one ex. We are polyamorous so I have been dating my girlfriend “Renee” for a year and my ex “Sylvia” while I was dating Renee with her permission. I’ve known Sylvia since I was 9 but I’ve known Renee since like first grade.

Anyway, Sylvia occasionally flirts with me but she has two girlfriends (one is her recent girlfriend who happens to be Renee and the other is this girl “Ruby”).

I’ve seen a lot of Relationship posts and I’m thinking it’s “partner problem season” or something.

So Sylvia does flirt with me and we are on-and-off partners. We broke up again a while ago but I know we’ll probably be back together. Her charm really makes me wanna be with her because she’s energetic, pretty, and charismatic, but she also spends way more time with her partners, rightfully.

She barely even talks to me and just plays some video game like our favorite, Doki Doki Literature Club or just Minecraft or something.

Sometimes she acts like she likes me and cares about me but other times she engages in the same behaviors as the ones that made me break up with her, her neglecting my needs.

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[–] atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like it might be. If Sylvia neglects your needs then please don’t go back to her and focus on Renee

[–] DScratch@sh.itjust.works 10 points 4 months ago

You can also just meet her where she is. The big strength of polyamory is that you don’t need one partner who can fulfil all your needs.

What you have with Sylvia might be referred to as a “comet relationship”. They come around once every now and then, burns hot and bright for a short time and then they leave for a while.

It’s not bad or good, it just is.

[–] JackDark@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Who the hell plays Doki Doki Literature Club multiple times?

[–] atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

Her, apparently

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

c/asklemmy isn’t supposed to be a relationship advice forum. It’s supposed to be Lemmy’s version of r/askreddit.

[–] IHatePepRallies@discuss.online 0 points 4 months ago

I shall delete this then

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Poly stops being fun the second you are not the one overwhelmed with attention

[–] atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

I’m poly and try to give both my partners attention but yeah… sadly

[–] blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 4 months ago

Don’t I know it…

My partner used to spend so much time with me but now he almost completely avoids me for his new boyfriend