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Hihi

I am not currently looking to have sex or a relationship for a variety of reasons, one of them being I honestly dont know what it looks like.

When I was in a straight relationship (me being the boyfriend at the time), I struggled a lot with the idea of penetrative sex. Oral sex on me was out of the question. Only now do I realise that was possible dysphoria. Or maybe just not liking it

Thats ok I think, just means I dont want to top. However I dont want to bottom either?? I've tried anal by myself. It was terrible everytime. When I think about it if I had a vagina that would be all good but at the same time I really dont know if SRS is what i want. Honestly I vibe with what Ive got, even if I dont want to "use" it in that way. I do joke in my head that it would be great if I had both lmao. Idk y.

I honestly feel sexually stuck or broken. Ive honestly wondered what it would be like to be in a loving but sexless relationship. But I know im not asexual, I just have insecurities around sex.

I dont know why im making this post lol. Anyway, thanks for reading.

-Minty

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[–] doubtingtammy@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 week ago

I got stood-up by a chaser, and I think it turned me asexual