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I'm kind of going through it right now, but I'm not sure.
I've been talking to this girl for a while, but we've been keeping things low-key.
The other day, work was crazy, I was tired, and I forgot to text her
She never texted me.
So I let it go another day, and she never texted me.
Now it's today, and she still hasn't texted me, which makes me feel like I was doing all the heavy lifting keeping the communication going.
We're still relatively new in the relationship. I don't feel like it's a very high bar to expect that she would put effort in.
So I guess I'm deciding that if she doesn't text me today then I'll text her in the morning and say I hope she has a good one and move on.
This is not a great take. Someone often does the heavy lifting in conversations and not texting doesn't mean not caring for a lot of people.
Something about the way that you have phrased your response is off-putting to me.
If you told me this in person, I would be angry at you.
It's not like I'm trying to end a marriage or something. I've been talking to her for a few weeks. If cracks are forming this early, then it's right for me to have my hackles up.
Yeah I can see why. My response wasn't intended as directly as it is written and it is difficult to put into a short statement but let me try:
I see it often that a complete non-topic for one person is mis-interpreted as a lack of interest by another. Maybe some communication is missing.
My partner is very poor with texting/calling back. IN the beginning I used to interpret it, maybe as you have here, as a lack of interest. So, we spoke about it and it was made clear to me that this person just does not like using their phone as a main means of communication, and the interest was in-fact there.
Had that recently too. Was seeing this beautiful woman, and after our second date, we went from texting everyday, a lot, to her not texting me for 2 straight days, while I was texting her. It just felt off. I saw a random article about "breadcrumbing" where people, like, give just a little bit of themselves to keep you interested, while actually chasing someone they like better. They keep you on the bench as a backup to the person they actually want. I saw it as the universe giving me a sign. Told her "I dunno what changed, but I can take a hint. Good luck out there."