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AITA for being mad at my dentist to insist extracting all my wisdom tooth in my 40ies? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 1 month ago by pedz@lemmy.ca to c/aitah@lemmy.world

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I never liked dentists. Every time they call, all I can think is "what are they gonna find and how much is it going to cost this time?" I didn't always have insurance and dentists have always been a source of financial stress for me. So I never got my wisdom tooth removed.

Unfortunately lately I had issues with an old filling and waited too long to fix it because I had no job and no insurance at that time. So I had to remove that one. And while discussing this the dentist also suggested I should remove the bottom wisdom tooth because they were at risk of infection in the future. I agreed to remove the most pressing ones while I still didn't have a job nor insurance.

So when I got to the appointment they wanted to remove 5 teeth. The damaged one and all 4 wisdom teeth. I never recall discussing that but while being there... In the end they could only remove 3 + the damaged one, and I'll have to go back.

It cost nearly $2000 and I still haven't had my fist paycheck from my new job, from which I had to take two days off. And that cabinet knew I had no job nor insurance. I have given them several thousand dollars in the last months.

I feel ripped off, in all the senses. It's been 4 days and my face is still swelling. I had to sign a waiver and I sincerely regret it.

I should have held my ground and told them to remove only the one I considered urgent, and come back when I had a job and insurance, because they clearly don't care.

It will take me months to recover financially from this. It broke the confidence that I slowly built with this cabinet. It just seems to validate my hatred for dentists even more. They're not only extracting teeth, they are also extracting large amounts of money even though some can't pay that much.

I try to convince myself that it would have to be done eventually, but I lived with them without issues before; my friends still have them and they're not dead. I really feel cheated out of at least $1000 that I could have put on food, or rent!

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[–] pedz@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 week ago

I'm still angry about this and still feel like I haven't been told everything I needed to know before signing this consent form. But no, I'm in Canada. Dentists here are private businesses and are charging to insurance providers. If someone doesn't have insurance, there is a new program that's only one or two years old where the government is now providing one, if all your taxes are in order. This is new and appreciated, as before this, most people working on minimum wage didn't have any dental insurance.

And yeah, now that it's done, I'll know what to do next time, hehe. I thought I was scheduled to remove just one because it was at risk of infection, but when I got there they wanted to remove all four. However this is just "normal" here, as most dentists are really really insisting on removing wisdom teeth. Most of my friends still have theirs but they also tell me that their dentists are nagging and insisting that they should be removed, for a few thousand dollars.