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Whenever I see a comment on social media that I think is wrong, I feel the need to correct it. These arguments can go on for days, even weeks, and if I don’t win the argument, I get overly fixated on it, wondering where I went wrong and so on.

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[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Quite literally, you need to learn self-control, how to pick your fights, manage your emotions.

You really wanna let a bunch of random asshats on the internet live rent free in your head, dictate the emotional course of your day, your evening, your week?

This is where the 'touch grass' meme partially comes from.

Sometimes, you need to let go, walk away, pet a kitty, hug a dog, admire a tree... or more ideally, work on some hobby that you find fun and fulfilling, and is at least potentially 'useful' in some very broad kind of practical way.

Also, a lot of people are beyond wrong/misinformed; they're actively committed to denying that they're wrong, even after its been shown that they are wrong.

You can just block people who are unwilling to admit fault or learn.

Its doesn't need to be your responsibility to personally deal with every dumb idiot asshole on the internet.