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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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A dilemma about losing fertility (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 months ago by Estiar@sh.itjust.works to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I don't feel very good right now. I'm one year and some change on HRT. It's been a wonderful experience so far and I love being a girl. I know that I'm trans, and I'm reminded by "why" every time I go home and I'm forced to boymode.

Unfortunately that's little comfort to the complex feelings of starting to feel erectile dysfunction (ED). I just had sex with my trans girlfriend and she didn't have much left. I can't ignore this feeling I'm on that same path eventually.

I want some sort of function either male or female. Even though I still wish I was born with a vagina. It pains me to even think about going off HRT though. I love being a girl too much and I don't think I could present fem without HRT. I still have most all of its function but it doesn't stay up for as long.

It's a completely irrational feeling that I hope will be solved eventually with SRS, but that's probably 10 years away and I just learned how to be sexual 2 years ago.

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[–] Cass@piefed.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

the way to retain function (particularly erections) is to ensure you have sustained, full erections every day.

From what I've heard (but no proper sources) about once a week is enough, but that's all I have to add

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 months ago

I lost function / had penile atrophy despite multiple erections per week. Once a week absolutely will not replace the multiple, long erections that happen every night on testosterone - I'm not even sure once a day is sufficient to prevent atrophy, to be honest. (That certainly doesn't mimic or replace the amount of time the penis spends erect at night.)