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What advice/solutions did your therapy actually give you? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Mine: "Fix your sleep schedule"

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[–] dfyx@lemmy.helios42.de 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not me but someone close to me:

There is a difference between "ready for therapy" and "ready for change". Some people will sit in therapy for years but never see much progress because they are so stuck in doing or thinking something that holds them back.
Your therapist will tell you things that don't make sense to you. Listen to them anyway. If they tell you something that seems impossible, don't ignore it, ask how you can do that. If they tell you something that seems useless, try it anyway, then report back if it doesn't work and be open for an explanation for why it didn't work.
Be brutally honest. Your therapist won't be able to help you unless you tell them exactly how bad your situation is. If you spend 90% of your day in bed and tell your therapist you're doing okay, they won't be able to correctly identify what kind of help you need.
It is completely normal to miss some of your goals. Therapy takes time and nobody will judge you if you take longer than others. Figuring out how much you should push yourself and when you need a break is hard. Either way, don't be angry at yourself when something doesn't work out. As long as you tried, you're fine.
Most of your problems are in your head. That doesn't mean they aren't real. It doesn't mean they don't hurt. It doesn't mean they aren't difficult to overcome. It just means that the only person who can solve them is you. A therapist can explain how to solve them but they can't change your thoughts or your habits.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Am I supposed to tell them I really really wanna kms right now?

Nah, they'd lock me up lmfao

Can't even tell my mom cuz she'd get mad at me...

Any LLM would just spam the same "seek professional help" shit...

Like...

Venting on a random forum is the best catharisis I have...

lmfao

[–] dfyx@lemmy.helios42.de 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Am I supposed to tell them I really really wanna kms right now?

Yes. If you don't, they can't help you.

Nah, they’d lock me up lmfao

Not if you are honest about it. Talking openly about it instead of just doing it is a good sign that you might be ready to fix stuff.

Can’t even tell my mom cuz she’d get mad at me…

That's not normal and not healthy. Tell your therapist. They might be able to find a way to get you out of an unhealthy environment, at least for a while.

[–] massive_bereavement@fedia.io 4 points 1 month ago

I used to hurt my self and went to therapy explaining that I was afraid I will end things: They didn't lock me, and instead help me understand what a lot of people go through, and that the fact that I am asking for help means that I'm in the right direction.

That said, my brother killed himself after VA fumbled his sessions, he spiraled down and for a single week he was in high spirits, always joking, as if we had him back. Then my dad found him. I wish they had locked him so I could still have a brother.

If someone here is considering self harm, please ask for help. It is worth it and you matter to us.

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Especially if you consider self-harm, it is very important to be honest with your therapist. Even if it leads to an extended stay in a psych ward, that's better than throwing your life away.

When my depression took over so hard that i was sitting in my room with a knife in my hand and pondering cutting open my wrists, instead i went directly to the psych ward and institutionalized myself for 3 months, until my medication and therapy made me stable enough to leave without danger. Without this step, i would probably not be here anymore and would have caused untold pain to my surroundings. It led to many happy memories in my life which i wouldn't have experienced.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Having a record for involuntary commitment is gonna put me on top of ICE's abduction list...

So yeah... officially, I'm not suicidal, I'm perfectly happy and healthy

(pls EU Immigration officials, lemme in 🥺👉👈)

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 3 points 1 month ago

That's why I said go voluntarily if you need to. It sucks, but it's better than the alternative. I know psych wards have a bad rep, but i can assure you that it helped me when i was at my lowest point in my life.

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Get a therapist from another country, and do it online. That's what I did. I self-medicate on weed (and grow it), and in Denmark, it's very illegal. I would never tell my Danish therapist about my daily consumption, as I'd lose my license, but I can tell my foreign therapist.

Disclaimer: I never drive intoxicated, but why should I not be able to have a joint after work to calm myself?