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What is the most relieving thing you've done for yourself? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 5 months ago by pyria@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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That doesn't involve either masturbating or going to the bathroom.

Mine is leaving Facebook. 4 days ago it has passed its permanent deletion date, so I can no longer recover it. I've been on it for 5 years and have been off and on it a little longer beforehand. Yes it sucks that by deleting my Facebook, I've closed off the connection to my locals who are on there, who I haven't seen in 3 1/2 years because I moved.

However, I have tried giving them alternatives to keep in touch but they seemed glued to the platform. Not budging, not caring, though I didn't want to be around anymore.

I was tired of the ads that I had to keep closing, I was tired of the YouTube shorts-ripoff always shoved in my face that I had to keep closing. I was tired of seeing notifications to things that either didn't exist or was already read but I got a notification for anyways. I was tired of being recommended people I have had no intention of adding. I was tired of FB Dating, on my phone, making up a number to get me to use it again.

I was just so tired of all of this degradation that FB has become over the years to where it was outweighing whatever use I thought that there was with it.

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[–] gigastasio@sh.itjust.works 37 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I stopped reading the news, and I block any and all feeds that relate to politics.

I know, I know…staying informed and all that. Except I’m hard pressed to name a news outlet that informs. What I see is so driven by the engagement metrics, rage baiting, if-it-bleeds-it-leads mentality that any modicum of facts or truth gets lost. Journalists seem to have forsaken their obligation to hold leaders accountable and have become complicit in the problems they’ve created.

I’m old, I’m jaded, and my activist days are far behind me. I’m just done with that shit. My own mental and physical health are my top priority at my age and switching off the never ending River of Doom has improved both.

[–] tomiant@piefed.social 13 points 5 months ago

I'm in the same boat as you except that my activist days will NEVER get behind me, I'm ready and willing as soon as the first shot rings, and I will be on the right side of history.

But I too stopped following news. I have a window, one or two hours at night, where I turn off all electronics, and just sit and think, in silence. I can have pen and paper, I can have a beer or a spliff or I want, but no electronics.

And it has worked wonders for my anxiety and depression. Really, being constantly deflected from your own internal thought processes is just another cancer killing humanity.

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

Same. Stopping following the news has been so great. The live 24hour news cycle is toxic and unnecessary. I've also come off all social media (other than Lemmy) and don't watch/hear live TV or radio. I'm insulated from the immediacy of constant content updates. The content I do still consume, I've turned off all phone notifications; so I see it when I intend to open the app rather than having my attention stolen.

I connect to the world through podcasts, reading and specific subscribed YouTube channels. It's refreshing to step away from the immediacy of having to know as soon as something happens. I find out on a podcast the next day or in a few days. I watch TLDR News on YouTube which does good explanations of current events a few days later (when information is available and the situation has developed). I'm going back to reading books and following a curated list of RSS subscriptions.

Tone down the immediacy of everything, avoid reactionary crap, avoid algorithm recommendations, be intentional in the content you're putting in front of yourself. Ithas certainly worked out great for me and I would recommend it.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

I really like More Perfect Union on YouTube. It's definitely more journalism than news, so you get investigations into what's going on.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

TLDR News on YouTube

i watch this too and i can attest that it's not much different than what you get on tv; it's still beholden to the same forces that control abc, cbs, nbc, fox, cnn, guarding, skyone, etc.

democracynow is on youtube is the best you're going to get in this country.

[–] pyria@kbin.melroy.org 5 points 5 months ago

I prefer to be minimally informed than wildly misinformed.

There is way too much and always has been, this tug of war of which angle is the most righteous than that angle. Until I see some honest and serious action towards a better tomorrow that'll benefit ~~all~~ (scratch that, how about the majority of those that just want live with as little conflict as possible), I can't care too much about waving flags, playing labels, shouting buzzwords and brainwashing myself to think a certain way to appease some demographic.

It is incredibly taxing and exhausting.