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I know opinions on this vary a lot depending on the country and culture, so I’m curious what others think. Personally, I have a 22-year-old son. I bought him a house and a car, I pay for his university tuition (his grades are high enough for a state-subsidized spot, but we feel that should go to someone more in need), and I basically support him fully. We want him to focus on his studies and enjoy this stage of his life. He will finish his dentistry degree in 2028, and then we plan to finance the opening of his private practice. We’ll stop providing financial support once he’s earning enough to live comfortably on his own. I see many parents online (especially in North America) talking about kids moving out at 18, paying rent to live at home, and covering their own bills, and it honestly shocks me. That feels unfathomable to me. I believe that as parents, we have a duty to give our children a good life since we brought them into this world.

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[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 5 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm actually quite surprised how many here seem to be agreeing with this considering the level of resentment towards wealthy people I see here on daily basis.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

because people don't like it when other people are welathy... but if they were wealthy they'd do the same things the wealtyh do that they hate.

and they don't see the irony or hypocracy. because it's 'different' if they do it. and only bad if someone else does it.

[–] tburkhol@lemmy.world 0 points 7 months ago

It's a great topic to bait class conflict.

I imagine a lot of lemmy users are tech-savvy, decent jobs, basically 'comfortable' in life. People who consider college education a necessity and part of parental responsibility, whether that means paying tuition outright, co-signing loans, or just letting their kid live at home until graduation.

I also imagine a lot of lemmy users are young people, struggling to balance the increasingly burdensome costs of housing, life, maybe school debt (depending on nationality). Maybe with their own kids put completely off the table by their immediate financial situation.

Both of those stereotypes can resent wealthy people. That first group means trust-fund kids and nepo-babies who graduate into leadership positions in their parents' companies. The second group means the first.