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I know opinions on this vary a lot depending on the country and culture, so I’m curious what others think. Personally, I have a 22-year-old son. I bought him a house and a car, I pay for his university tuition (his grades are high enough for a state-subsidized spot, but we feel that should go to someone more in need), and I basically support him fully. We want him to focus on his studies and enjoy this stage of his life. He will finish his dentistry degree in 2028, and then we plan to finance the opening of his private practice. We’ll stop providing financial support once he’s earning enough to live comfortably on his own. I see many parents online (especially in North America) talking about kids moving out at 18, paying rent to live at home, and covering their own bills, and it honestly shocks me. That feels unfathomable to me. I believe that as parents, we have a duty to give our children a good life since we brought them into this world.

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[–] Deifyed@lemmy.ml 15 points 6 months ago (3 children)

As a Norwegian i fully support zero. However, I think it depends a lot on the society you live in. Ideally the child learns how to fend for themselves, but if it meant a high probability of serious complications maybe no. For example if breaking a leg puts you into life altering debt

[–] tburkhol@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

As an American, the idea of cutting kids off at 18, demand that they figure out how to pay their own $15k/year college tuition, 20k rent, and (obviously) forego healthcare, with at best entry-level job skills, feels like child abuse.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

So much this. We’re paying for our son’s tuition, car, car insurance and health insurance while he lives with us and goes to culinary school. After he graduates, we will wean him off as he gets a job. He will remain on our health insurance until 26.

[–] djmikeale@feddit.dk 5 points 6 months ago

Danish person here, I reckon it also helps a lot that our education is free in the Nordics, and public transport is so good we don't need to be given a car.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 6 months ago

Yah, there are both cultural and societal elements to be considered. In US, the socialized safety net is basically nonexistent, while in Norway, Denmark and Germany (countries from other comments), it’s doing very well. Thus both mean that you can achieve different things with different levels of struggle and that “failure” has a very different meaning.

There is also the component of what the parents can offer. If economic support would be of little help, of social change the landscape, if they are able to do it, and so forth. A first gen college student will not get much useful advice from their parents, a second gen could get really useful guidance.