Radqueer

I forgor what some of the flags mean. But ik flutters is transage zoo that is a regular theme

Hi all, I was wondering if anyone has transID headcanons (or canon) for media they like. I figured this could be a fun discussion to have, considering everything.

Welcoming of all media (games, cartoons, anime, songs, etc) and transIDs, Paras, MUDs, etc (even the "problematic" ones).

— Saint (Shx/Hxr, Hx/Hxm)

Would be fun to fill out radqueer-related or adjacent templates like I remember there was a MAP one we filled out. They are fun

If you know of any feel free to share!

For better understanding of the situation please read following posts:

1. https://rqd2.net/post/41083
2. https://rqd2.net/post/44043

please note: I will talk about self harm in this post.

And now let's get into the story. The talk which we wanted to have did not happened on the day it was planned because I got sick. I interpret that as a sign that this stuff did too much damage already. But a few days later I was able to go into my project again.

12.3.2025 was the "finale" talk where I should find out what is actually wrong. My two social workers where there, my mom and the guy who manages this stuff and mostly takes the lead. And well, it was a shit show. We talked about my pictures again and some poems I wrote which even were not hard core sexual. On time I wrote in a verse about naked skin against fur but that was it. While the talk and before my mother and I told them more than one time that someone has to tell me which topic is appropriate there and which not. Because I struggle with seeing it by myself very often. But they just did not want to understand. They know I am autistic, they know my diagnoses, they know that stuff but they ignored everything. again.

The leading guy also did not let me and my mother really talk. He always cutted our sentences with his own words.

Again we both told them that I had therapy and all my therapists would disagree with me being a danger. The leader guy disagreed. He also told me that when I would be abusive that others would ask why they(the project) did not do something. He and the two others also did not react when I said that I relapsed because of the way they where treating me. I did selfharm many days. Legs, harms, shoulder, breast. They did not care. Instead they kept putting me and my mother under pressure with "I need to look for help".

Me and my mother told them again that if I see that I could be a danger then I am the first one to look for help. The leader guy did not take that serious. Instead of trying to understand our points he said the same shit over and over. He even told me that it is already very late for me to look for "help" in my state. Wow. Under tears I just said,: "I am no ticking time bomb". The leader guy said that they never told me that. But they did. Just not exactly this sentence. And he began to talk the same stuff over and over again. In the end it was me who stopped the talk. The conclusion of this was then: I have to look for therapy places and stuff like that in a certain time span. Which time span was not sure, we wanted to talk about that next week.

My problem here is that:

-He did not really let me and my mother talk

-He put me under pressure(time span) again

-He did not take us serious

-The social workers just said "yes" and stuff to his ideas like they could not think for theirselves

-He indiractly told me and my mother many times I am a danger

-He did not take my mental struggles serious and ignored everything which I said about my relapsing

-The topic with art was already talked out before (https://rqd2.net/post/41083)

And for your your information: This project is actually for people with mental struggles.

What are your thoughts? Let me know if you want to. And if you think this is the last post...no it is not. It gets even worse. It has a reason why I call it "The Day Before Disaster".

I'm using past tense since I have not looked into Christine for a while. I take pride in avoiding information which I might do for difficult subjects in general but particularly here since her fetishizers and harassers have a thing for infodumping her life onto people.

It's just so upsetting to see a fellow autist be subjected to vile ableist bullying and harassment, dehumanization, and moralization. Even in more tame aspects of her harassment it makes me so sad that many people know about her but many won't bother to be compassionate or patient toward someone they don't understand, instead jumping on freak show bandwagon, if not as active participant, as judgmental observer.

To clarify I'm okay with people having "problematic interests" but I'm talking about a systemic problem. CWC being broadly interesting is a byproduct of a culture of ableist gawking. As an autist who values accepting autists and their traits, even the less palatable treats, and who has seen a few autists (understated for humor), CWC is not a novelty. She's a victim.

While this isn't exclusively a radqueer take I think it's heavily aligned with radqueer.

Hi everyone

I recently check my local library’s terms of service and I believe it can allow me to teach about radqueers. I’m going to do a class on them and if anyone has recommendations on what to teach, please leave a comment.

Do you remember that post? https://rqd2.net/post/41083

Shortly expmlamed it's about the fact that the workers from the school I am talked to me, because I drew a sfw couple with the title "And they are both pedos".⁷

After that nothing happened anymore. I also do not draw any nsfw there or use those words. But last week it seemed not to be enough for them.

I do have two social workers for me and they had a talk with me again. Saying that I might should consinder talking with a therapist about my sexuality. I told them that I do not feel the need to talk about it and also asked for the reason why I should. All they told me that it would be an important topic in my age. I was like...wtf? Okay? I tried my best to explain calmly that I don't feel the need and also had therapy around that topic in the past. But they put pressure on me.

A few days later. Today to be exact. We had a conference where one of my social workers were there, my mother, the person who managed the school and the person who helps me in general with finding jobs and stuff like that. At the and me and my mother mentioned what happened and I explained how I felt.

What do you think happened? They told me they have to put this pressure on me because they have legal worries. I told again I already had therapy and they were even wondering why I don't have it anymore. And about the legal worries: Did they tell me which legal worries? No. They just tried to justifice the pressure they put on me. My mother also doesn't understand what's wrong.

The thing is:

• Like I said I do not draw nsfw there and also do not write paraphilias on my art anymore
• I never said things which could bring me in legal trouble(for example saying I want to commit a crime)
• I do not consume illigal media in school
• If I would do something illigal they should maybe...tell me directly what I did?

I feel misunderstood. Tomorrow will be another talk where I try to find out what the hell their problem is.

What do you think? Do you maybe have any advice on how to deal with that situation?

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(to those who celebrate it,) happy thanksgiving!!!

let's talk about what we're thankful for!

amy is thankful for her wife. even though she doesn't fully accept or support amy for some things (MAP, etc) yet, she has stuck with amy regardless and loves amy and treats her with respect and compassion.

amy is thnkful for her fellow MAPs, who have given amy a loving community where nobody else would. amy has been accepted with open arms into such a beautiful place filled with the love and joy of childhood.

amy is thankful for the AAMs who give amy hope and remind her that it's ok to be a MAP. their youthful spirits are contagious and help amy to regress to an age where happiness is abundant. also they are hot.

amy is thankful to her parents for bringing amy into this world.

what r u thankful for?

Hello, I'm Oaks. Thanks for reading my post.

Edit: I went to the doctor. I'm on antibiotics and will make a full recovery soon.

I've always struggled with the fact I've been severely mistreated (and that's an understatement) in nearly every way, which makes me cistrauma (though I am transseverity for most of my cisIDs related to my traumas). I am cisC-PTSD and cisDID and all that junk thanks to it all. Because of all that, I'm easily scared and (re)traumatized. My partner has to do most things outside of the house because I'm too scared to go outside.

Yesterday, however, something happened. Something I feel like it should have given me trauma. It did make me very afraid but I don't think I actually got any trauma.

I went outside to walk my sweet little white havanese dog, Snowdrop, she's a wonderful dog but she is practically blind, not even a foot in height, and already an anxious dog. She's 3 years old (born with eye problems) and pretty playful with dogs her size. She's pretty careful though. I was walking her with someone, who was helping me around the house, thank the gods cuz it could have ended uglier. She was paying close attention to Snow while I was trying to process any danger in the area. I was too slow. I saw a neighbor with her dogs, said hi and only after registered her dogs were not on a leash (Snow was). They're fast and strong dogs, at least twice the height of Snow, and really hyper. One black, one brown, they are beautiful, but almost totally untrained. Mind you, we were in a park, not a dog park, a normal park. Other people come there, children come there. These dogs would have easily pushed over a 10 year old. They came running over, ignoring their owner's recall and went straight for Snow. When they started to come in our direction it seemed like they were pretty calm for once but when they got within 5 to 2 meters it seemed like lightning had struck. They came at us so fast, I can barely remember what happened next. They basically attacked her. They were "playful" but way too wild and wouldn't stop or leave her alone. I jumped in between, as best as I could, to protect my furry baby. But the owner just stood there. She did try calling them back multiple times but the dogs refused to come, continuously trying to get to Snow. I was bitten and scratched, mud got all over us. Snow still has a muddy paw print on her back where she got slapped or kicked, we tried cleaning her with some pet wipes but she was absolutely terrified. I have a wound on my hand that within 24 hours became infected even after having washed it and used disinfectant so I'm about to leave to go to the doctor. We had to call the vet today because Snow was clearly uncomfortable. She got antibiotics and painkillers. I feel like this whole ordeal should have caused me trauma or some form of severe distress, and while I experience some distress, it's not where I feel like it should be. But then again, maybe I am traumatized and this is how my brain decided to cope.

Anyway! Thanks again for reading! And letting me vent to y'all a little.

cross-posted from: https://rqd2.net/post/43780 (crossposting from Map because it's relevant to all paras/ IDs)

Wrapper Offline is based on an older website called Goanimate. It lets you make your own animated videos using the program’s preset moves and facial expressions. You can make characters that will be brought to life automatically. Add camera movements, music, sound effects, etc. You’re put right in the “director’s chair”

It has a variety of design themes with their own backgrounds, props, characters (ex: Comedy World, Stick Figure, Lil Peeps, Anime)

Something like this could be the missing link in our goals to change society. We have memes, infographics, some videos, some studies, “positive memories” stories and more

But.. we don't have the benefit of actors or experienced traditional animators to take things to the next level. Wrapper opens that door so wide for us ♥️. I made these little animations to give you guys a look into what this program can do:

1. Map relevant https://fstube.net/w/eSTJR5zzrkKEnkjkGjDPYM
2. Random/ just fun https://fstube.net/w/tPWLBjXC4BJdTLT2W354Vt (Detailed information in the descriptions and comments) (And anyone’s free to reuse any character designs)

If people start using this while it's not very known, we’ll be steps ahead of antis who may find it later.

Wrapper Offline can become a Para program 😏😸

At almost 17 minutes long, Joanna Newsom's "Only Skin" can tell many stories, and it does! In this post, I will discuss the motif of youth attraction in this song.

This post is not an attempt to argue that "Only Skin" is about youth attraction. It is about womanhood, and youth attraction is just a part of that. Yes, I believe the imagery of youth attraction is intentional.

One of Joanna Newsom's favorite books is Vladimir Nabokov's Lolita, and she references this book in her music—"I saw a star fall into the sky like a chunk of thrown coal as if God himself spat like a cornered rat"—alongside lyrics such as, "Helpless as a child as you held me in your arms." She knows what she's doing. Perhaps she is evokes this imagery purely figuratively, or perhaps she means to write about actual youth attraction: this is up for debate.

"Only Skin" begins with the focus of the narrator's affection having a nightmare about war. Some listeners believe he is an ex-solider, but he doesn't have to be. I get the impression that he's an amalgamation of people, sometimes a man and sometimes a boy, agefluid due to representing more than one person in the narrator's life, the object of semi-incestuous, semi-pedophilic attraction (I use pedophilic loosely here as there is no way to determine an objective age range).

OK, but which lyrics evoke both the narrator's amourous attraction towards her youthful focus?

Press on me, we are restless things. Webs of seaweed are swaddling. And you call upon the dusk of the musk of a squid: shot full of ink, until you sink into your crib.

I have got some business out at the edge of town, candy weighing both of my pockets down till I can hardly stay afloat, from the weight of them (and knowing how the commonfolk condemn what it is I do, to you, to keep you warm: Being a woman. Being a woman.)

With your hands in your pockets, stubbily running to where I’m unfresh, undressed and yawning —

These stanzas are the best examples. Attraction is implied with pressing, restlessness, keeping warm, and strangely enough, pockets, which hold lust in Joanna Newsom's music. From the same song that evoked the cornered rat that is Humbert Humbert, "Have One On Me":

Here's Lola — ta da! — to do her famous Spider Dance for you! Lighten up your pockets! Shake her skirts and scatter, there, a shrieking, six-legged millionaire with a blight in his sockets.

("Have One On Me" is about Lola Montez, not Dolores Haze, the Lola in slacks from Lolita. It's just a coincidence-- ah who am I kidding! We've got another amalgam on our hands.)

Youth is implied in swaddling, the crib, and stubby running, sure, but those guilty, candy-filled pockets are my favorite. Picturing the narrator, who I imagine as Joanna Newsom, a stereotypical pedo creep holding candy and worrying about normies... It's humorous and refreshing in the context of this 17-minute masterpiece.

This isn't the end of youth attraction in this song. Far from it. The narrator calling her focus "son" and treating him as such, the narrator's internal conflict of surrounding womanhood and mapmisia, the imagery of cherry fruit and blossoms... There is a lot for a YAP and/or AAM to like in "Only Skin."

I was planning on combing through the entire song, listing each and every example, but I think it's more effective if you give the song a listen yourself.

Joanna Newsom — Only Skin

Semi-related, I ought to advertise our Ao3 profile as our writing can get heavily inspired by Joanna Newsom's music. It's mostly Breaking Bad fanfiction. Since we are radqueer, our ideology comes through in our writing sometimes. Especially in Peach, Plum, Pear, and yes it's named after a Joanna Newsom song.

Our profile, two_faced_hydra.

Some time ago I made a macrophilia flag by myself. :3

Here are the meanings of the colours:

Red:

Red stands for the power(of the giant person) and for the sexuality or/and romantic attraction to them.

White:

White stands for the pure and honest acceptance of the way you experience your attraction.

Pink:

Pink stands for being sensitive, soft and maybe too naiv with the giant person.

19 days until....

How come I've never seen a place on Tor that's for Chaos Undivided the way clearnet para communities often are? With respect to the porn specifically, yes, obviously I know why there's such a focus on That One Para. But I haven't found para community there except for That One Para. I have found one no-media support space on Tor, and it is that. There's multi-para users, but there aren't even enough for a clique.

In particular, it's really confusing to me that I've found no darknet zoos, except for the multiparas. Sure, you can find zoo porn on clearnet all day long, and there have always been community-focused sites for it, because enforcement against zoo, especially online, is usually weaker than a baby fart. But for a multipara community, you kind of need a broader community like this, and one thing in particular that feels like it should exist is zoo dating. Dating websites are subject to so much scrutiny from payment processors that they all have effectively the same policies about which things you're allowed to even fantasize, so that's simply not a thing. No, Fetlife isn't good enough, you know it isn't.

There's lots of things, and zoo is just dripping with this energy, that are trivial to get away with in legal terms if they're even illegal in the first place, but which seemingly can't be done on clearnet without much difficulty. They don't happen in these multipara spaces either, because for whatever reason nobody builds those on darknet.

Hell, for that matter, there's so many places adult incest is legal in Anno Domini 2024 that it is fucking bonkers to me that you have to jump up your asshole to find porn that might not be yet more fantasy stepcest horseshit. Where is all the legal incest porn that should be using Tor to sidestep credit card and hosting company bullshit?

Edit: Hopefully somebody can see this now, I did not mean to post this as Japanese. I didn't even realize I could only select one language in my profile. :V

Well, back to my commonly asked question ig.

Is there a reliable instance I can join? Oddballs went down, then Tummy, and now Eepy is going down.

While I do like lemmy, I just personally don't vibe with the reddit style and I prefer social media like fedi.

I don't know which ones aren't likely to go down, since it seems like every instance goes down.

I don't like NNIA, as the owner of it can't think in nuance and needs to make everything about discourse, which I want to avoid. I also can't be NSFW on there, so that's even worse.

I haven't gotten a response from anyone on Rape.Pet, ans tbh I don't expect too, since it seems pretty secluded.

I don't know anything about cottoncandy.cafe, and it seems to be closed to registration.

I like Capyborea.space, but... Some of the content posted there does make me a bit wary (I'm a paranoid individual)...

Filly.love seems to be MLP oriented, but idk how reliable it is...

Is there any space that's really safe anymore?? Or do I have to run the risk of just... losing a safe space? Is it even worth it at this point to stay on Fedi???

I think she does not like me anymore.

I have a very close friend which I know a very long time and a few years ago I trusted her with my paraphilias. While she dealed with that very well sometimes the thought crosses my mind that she might think I am disgusting in secret.

I asked her if she actually likes me even when she does not understand my sexual pleasures. She did not answer. Than I asked her if she hates me. She said ironically that she does.

While I know that she meant with that that she does not hate me it was not what I was hoping to hear. What I wanted to hear was something like "No, I do not hate you" After that little talk we got both very quiet and I had to hold back my tears.

And the fact that she did not tell me directly what her feelings are worries me.

What if she actulally hates me? What if she just could not say that into my face? What if she is only my friend because we know each other very long and she has nobody else?

I would like to ask her about that but I am not sure how. I dont want to sound akward or offensive.

Do you also had such experiences and do you have some advice? What do you think about my situation? I know I overthink too much but I cannot stop it.

Oscar Wilde is a MAP as shown in his «The love that dares not speak its name» speech and other sources.

Allen Ginsberg is a MAP as we know from his membership to NAMBLA and other sources.

Are there any other famous radqueer people you would like to include in this series of real life famous radqueer people?

Since it looks like Oddballs is going down, judging by Ezra telling people to migrate their accounts, are there any instances that are like Oddballs and have similar rules?

It is not easy for me to write that dark part of my past down. But I think I need to it so I can finally move on and be a better person.

(TW: mental abuse, death threats, death)

When I was in the third grade a new student came to our class. She were from another school and had no friends. And in the few weeks she still had not got any. Mostly because of her unussual behaivior. She were loud and acted mostly like a little child. She also used to break down in class whitout(for the most of us) a good reason to do so.

After some time I and her talked a bit with each other. That was when I realized that she is actually very kind when you open up to her. But the more we spent time with each other, the more I saw more of her behavior. And because of that I felt I have the right to mistreat her and abuse my position. Between us two there were a clear balance of power. I were the only "friend" she really had and I knew she would always come back. The most time I also only spent with her because I wanted to keep a good bond with her father. Her father was a huge manga freak so he gave some of them to me so I can also read them.

I think everyone with a clear mind would have noticed that she really used to have mental problems but this still did not stop me. And the fact that she still trusted me makes everything worse. knew alsmost everything about her. I knew about her abusive mother, her dead brother, the reason why she changed schools and so on.

I was not a horrible person to her all the time but this does NOT change the fact that I abused her mentally. I knew she would come back, I knew no one would believe her no matter what she said. So she became my punching back for my bottled up emotions.

I think the peak of my abuse was when I actually threated her to kill her whenever I was mad. I used to take out my scissors so many times. And still she saw me as a friend and even tried to help me. She actually cared about me but I did not care. And my hard family situation at that time is not an exscuse for the things I have done to her.

Later our situation calmed down but I am sure that the things I did still left deep wounds inside her heart. When we all changed schools we both did not hang out with each other again. She found a bunch of new friends and I hope that they are real friends. Not people like me.

Now everything I feel when I look back is regret. She was a lovely girl who believed in the good of peoples hearts. I could always count on her. She was careful and respected everyones feelings. She was way too kind and a person I never deserved.

I wish I could go back and make everything different. But I cannot. I am not here to ask for your forgiveness or even sympathy.

When you see a "friendship" like this please do NOT stay silent. These people might need you more than you think.

(This post is posted in "Radqueer" since I do not know which community fits for this)

I dont know anything about radqueer symbols and was curious what the ones in the banner mean :3

Also is there anywhere where I can find more radqueer symbols? Like a wiki or a website meant for archiving radqueer media etc?

Dear listeners,

I am very sorry that you have to wait so long for new episodes. While we don't have a regular upload time we also didn't want to take this long.

The thing is that we don't know how long it will take to make a new episode. And when a new one comes out it's also possible that me(Ayana) and Cody will be whithout Mushroom.

I don't want to give you too much private information but I will give you some general info about our situation:

Mushroom got in trouble a time ago and the last time I heard from her was about two or three months ago. Cody also weren't able to contact her.

If there are new updates I will let you know.

Again, we are really sorry. We wanted to wait until everything is clear to us but it seems like that we won't be able to contact Mushroom any time soon.

Thank you very much for your patients.

Hey RQC, I just wanted to say this:

I've been identifying as TransRAMCOA since early March of this year, despite being a CisRAMCOA survivor.

I remember when I wandered into this community, a former bigot of all varieties, scared that I would be judged and shamed, and instead, I was welcomed.

I asked and wondered if I could use "TransRAMCOA" to cope and I was told I'd be valid, even if it was to cope or just have fun. I've loved this community and I've grown as a person overall.

I feel better being seen as a RAMCOA survivor, cis or trans, and I want to thank you all for helping me on my journey and helping me accept myself. The RQC has helped me feel mostly comfortable in who I am, and more comfortable than I've ever been in my life.

It actually feels wonderful being able to feel okay in who I am. The way the RQC had supported me, even if it was just a little, means so so much to me. I feel less alone, I feel more whole.

Thank you, RQC.

It’s back and I’m so happy. I miss you all so much. 🥹

I wish there were more radqueers spread out among popular sites, way more than there are now. Just being pro-transid has gotten me shit. We need to band together and have a little 'takeover', just make accounts on sites and be openly and unabashedly radqueer. Why am I so passionate about this? Because people don't realize how widespread we are. People need to realize that us radqueers ARE the future, and we aren't going anywhere anytime soon. We're here, and we are who we fuckin' are.