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I uninstalled syncthing-fork when I first heard "foul voices on the air" (LotR ref) because I haven't needed it recently, & decided to reinvestigate when I next need it (& the dust might have settled itself by then). In the meantime someone commented that you can configure & use vanilla syncthing on termux instead. I use termux for so much already that it is the obvious choice (for me) if actually true. If you hadn't heard that either it might be a viable choice for you too...

Related: Someone commented the following gem on another Lemmy thread a month or two ago - "They get to choose their business model, I get to choose my customer model".

It's always DNS.

The one I'm really hoping for is a torch-song sung by Darth Vader in the style of Adelle's "Hello". In the video, Darth stands in a warrior-pose, fist raised to the heavens, fan-generated wind billowing through his cape, singing "hello from the dark side"...

Inflected Mushroom

I love this typo/autocorrect. In fact, I think it's a better name for the band. They should definitely add that "L".

Anyone who knows enough about Wireguard, iproute2 tools, iptables/nftables, etc (firewall-marking certain packets based on criteria, then directing them through alternate route-tables based on that) can hand-roll split-tunneling, internal point-to-point tunnels/meshes, etc. For (most) people who want to achieve this in a less painful/fragile way, from what I've understood it seems Tailscale just does exactly this under the hood in a less arduous and more intuitive way for users, while also providing a static internet-facing ingress point when needed. Headscale exists for those wanting that but with their own static ingress (self-hosted at their own IP) instead of Tailscale's.

Very well said. I will make a concerted effort to inject "hypernormalization" into my speech more often going forward. For decades I've been saying to friends that the reductionist obsession with "normal" (whatever the hell that means) is a cancer to modern society.

In particular it already sounds creepy when you replace usage with its verb-form, e.g. changing "all my friends are normal" to "all my friends have been normalized". It's common practise to use a re-encoder to normalize a "background" playlist of songs to the same dB threshold so no single song sticks out and distracts us from what we are trying to focus on while listening. Similarly, authorities of an authoritarian ilk try to normalize populations so none of them stick out and distract from the primary focus (centralization of power and money). Hypernormalization involves taking that to its logical conclusion, telling the vast majority of people "stay in your lane" - meaning "shut up and consume, and when we tell you what to buy you buy it", AKA be "normal(ized)").

Just a heads-up to anyone who - like me - thought this was about Radicle and got confused about mentions of caldav/cardav/LDAP... Radicale != Radicle

Although I agree with the implied sentiment that "the Perfect is the enemy of the Good Enough" (especially for low-profile personal web-presence) and that naval-gazing about protocols can become a counterproductive rabbit-hole, sometimes it can also be risky to oversimplify in the other direction without at least parenthesizing the caveats too. For example this "HTTP/1.1 must die" site points out how desync attacks make HTTP/1.1 robustness a bit of a game of Whack-a-Mole. For certain sites (even some personal sites) this can occasionally matter.

The URL includes "-lets-learn-everything-" so I guess that is it.

I understand your point and to avoid two apparently valid points talking past each other I suggest these both look like cases of suffering under the general "stay in your lane" mentality. In that context the "counterpoint" you are replying to seems to support the initial point rather than conflict with it. To clarify, that context is the very outdated mentality of "Women 'should' raise the kids and keep the family healthy, while men 'should' go out and do society-stuff. Girls 'should be' raised to handle interpersonal challenges and ignore other stuff, while boys 'should be' raised to ignore interpersonal challenges and handle other stuff".

...and not just movies. My partner and I steadfastly try to do all "interacting with kid's school, extracurricular and social groups" stuff 50/50. We always strive to go to (and host) such important events together. We always indicate we should both be added to mailing lists, and give both our phone numbers as contacts, etc, etc. However, much (sometimes most) of the time people only ever call her about kids playdates, medical professionals default to discussing his issues with her exclusively even though I am sitting next to her and commenting too, when there is a parents' chat/mail group for his classes or other activities usually she gets added and then has to help me muscle my way in to the group (and the groups are often all women). Once at a preschool party a parent saw me interact with my kid, came and asked me to point out his mother, then went to her to invite our kid to a birthday party. It's never-ending for a father who strives to be a "caring father", and not just an infantile "toxically masculine, one-dimensional, emotionally stunted cliché" in terms of "role model". It is exhausting for both her and me, but is also extremely demoralising for me because trying to be what you believe to be the right kind of role-model is one of the most important yet virtually undocumented parts of parenting, and even more demoralising because it still happens even after I hugely reduced my external workload in order to be the primary "stay at home" parent. One small positive step is that the country we live in introduced "paternity leave at child-birth" legal requirements (much smaller than for maternity leave though, and only introduced after my kid was born [sigh]). In popular culture it has become a trope that women suffer endlessly trying to play the role of both parents to compensate for idiotic (or selfish prick) fathers, but it glosses over the fact that a man who actively tries to "be the change" (and any woman who tries to facilitate that change in solidarity) are so often tripped up at every step by this pervasive (and often subconscious) intellectual and emotional inflexibility. One other small positive is that I occasionally find another father who feels the same way (and who is often just as frustrated and burned out by the state of things) ...sometimes - just one or two. Having previously lived in many countries/continents I also know that the country I live in is far from the worst offender for this, which makes it even more pathetic globally.

Everything is based around violence. Like really, is that all boys are good for?

Oh yeah, you are so right. It feels at times like - when I'm not teaching him to play football (violently), and not egging him on to emulate (violent) action figures, and not buying him fake guns to play with (violently), and not telling him to "man up" instead of taking time to understand his feelings, etc - there seems to be a degree of subliminal judgmentalism directed at me for not "sticking to the job description". It seems many people will prefer to see the world burn in preference to accepting someone disregarding parts of the "normality" rulebook based on rational introspection, including those who would never admit it out loud, and even some who haven't yet consciously realised they are standing on that side of history - perhaps because it holds up a mirror to them not doing so (out of fear?, laziness?, bitterness-fueled pulling-up the ladder?).