raptorattacks

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[–] raptorattacks@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Trans guy here. I haven't had to bind in a while (top surgery), but I wore binders from gc2b for years. I always found them pretty comfortable (as comfortable as a binder is going to get, anyway), and liked that they came in a bunch of different colors, including multiple skin shades. It's also trans owned, if that's important to you.

In terms of what to look for:

  • It's really worth it to get a binder from a reputable brand. I wore a cheap Amazon binder for a few months and it was painful, I really don't recommend it.
  • Shape can matter for comfort. I preferred a half tank style because I wanted as little extra fabric as possible (I'm a sweaty guy), but a full tank style can be less dysphoric because it looks less like wearing a bra. Same with racerback or full back styles.
  • It's useful to have a few different colors. White and nude are both useful when trying to hide the binder under certain types of shirts, black or colors will hide their age better. Shape can also matter here - do you wear crop tops? You'll want at least one half tank. Tank tops? A racerback will show less under those thin straps.
  • A compression bra might be more comfortable when working out, even if it's less good for binding.

I don't know your friend, but if they're just getting one binder to try it out, I'd recommend a half tank in a nude color that best matches the skin tone on their chest. That's going to be the most versatile under the most clothing. If they like binding, they can pick up more binders once they know more of what they're looking for.

Putting on a binder for the first time was life changing for me. I nearly cried from how good it felt to look in a mirror and see a flat(ter) chest. Best wishes for your friend!!

P.S. You can use tape for binding, but you shouldn't wrap your chest up in tape. The safe way to do it is to use a couple strips to "pull" your chest tissue into a more comfortable shape. There's tutorials online for this. You have to use skin safe tape - the kind athletes use for muscle injuries is available at most drug stores. (This works best if your chest is relatively small – mine was too big for this.)

[–] raptorattacks@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It's not true. Crops with multiple harvests give experience for every harvest. (In the first paragraph under Experience Points.)

The stuff about sprinklers looks correct. But I find the lvl 6 sprinklers (Quality Sprinklers) very useful. I'm still using plenty of them on my farm even now that I'm swimming in the materials for the lvl 10 sprinklers.

[–] raptorattacks@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This isn't true. Crops with multiple harvests give experience for every harvest. (In the first paragraph under Experience Points.)

Maybe you're thinking of how crops that give multiple fruits per harvest (like blueberries and cranberries) only give Exp once per harvest? But if you plant cranberries at the start of the month, you will harvest them 5 times and get Exp every time. I leveled farming to 10 this way in my most recent playthrough.

[–] raptorattacks@lemmy.world 16 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Multiple answers to that question:

  • There are women on Grindr - in my experience, mostly trans women or m/f couples looking for a third. So men can find straight sex on Grindr, but it's rare. Women are definitely a scant minority of the users.
  • There are plenty of "straight" men on Grindr. You'd have to ask them why - I usually block them.
  • The reason why dating apps marketed towards straight people don't allow this kind of messaging (and the reason there aren't more women on Grindr) is because women, generally speaking, won't put up with the same kind of shit that gay men will. A straight dating app where men could send horny messages and dick pics to every woman they saw wouldn't have any women using it.
[–] raptorattacks@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (6 children)

Grindr doesn't really have a "match" system. You can send a message to anyone whose profile you can see (unless/until they block you). Think of it less like a traditional dating app and more like an interactive billboard of horny people in your area.