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I'm not gonna pretend I'm a fantastic player; I can be pretty trash sometimes. To preface I'm I4 and have been playing for a month or two, but my friend who has been playing since 2024 and I have been queueing since my first day. He is now Oracle 5 or 6 and we mainly play in R6-E4 matches.

The amount of people who soft int or just outright grief if they face any minor inconvenience is insane. I don't want to swap out of strong lane because I'm playing P1 and the matchup is great? Now our weak lane is just running their guardian down and feeding. I ping mid when we have map control and they're 4 down? I guess i can go fuck myself with a cactus because 4 of them would rather huddle around a single sinners despite an entire map of jungle existing. I ask the 18k 0-9 Drifter to not fight the 31k 7-0 Mina? Everyone but my duo and I die in a teamfight while minions take our shrines.

Now I play lile dogshit sometimes I know, I dont want to come off high and mighty. But i swear to god you would think that people in Emissary could do >250 obj damage (i've had people in E4 do 29 obj damage. 29. not 29k, not 2.9k, 29) and know how to play from behind or at least not mass feed the enemy. Part of this is on me and my duo to carry and overperform if we win lane which I acknowledge, but carrying is difficult when the rest of your team is a 3 or 4 stack that got pissed that you asked them to play the game so they decided griefing you is more important than winning the match.

https://statlocker.gg/profile/334235782/matches

I have a small homelab that's not nice enough for /r/homelab but is a bit more than just self hosting. Since I'm a decently knowledgeable sysadmin and network engineer, my goal is to build an enterprise-ish environment for myself to tinker around and play inside. This means a lot of my setup is more complicated than it needs to be and I spend a lot of time troubleshooting and debugging my overengineering, so when something breaks my first assumption is that it was something I did. I usually build my stuff to be relatively aelf sufficient when I leave it alone.

But this weekend and today I simply couldn't find what I broke. I was attempting to move a clunky lets encrypt cert renewal job off of my DNS server to somewhere I could better manage it. Why was it on my DNS server? Because for a while now, dynamic updates only half worked for me. My bind9 server was fully capable and I have a custom nsupdate cronjob to update my DDNS records that I installed on my UDM-Pro. But for whatever reason, as soon as I entered my home network^1^ it wouldn't work. Since I thought it better to manage my certs from Proxmox or another internal service, I needed to figure out why this was. I looked high, I looked low, I looked in /etc but there was no configuration error that I could find. I tested the same TSIG key on another machine in my VPC and on my UDM-Pro but there it went without a hitch. The error was weird — NOTIMP — and I couldn't find anything relevant online. As a last resort I turned to ChatGPT^2^, but all this confirmed was that there should be no errors with my configuration. It's conclusion was that it had to be networking.

So i scoured the configuration of my UDM looking for any filtering or traffic rules I had, but nothing was clicking. This wasn't a connection issue, this is the server telling me that updates were not allowed for this zone. I was clearly hitting the DNS server, right? Well there was nothing in the update logs on the server, so I suspected that for some reason the requests weren't making it through. So I spun up wireshark on my UDM and on my DNS server, and saw for myself that the dynamic update requests weren't even reaching the bind server. I would see the update come into the router, and a response from the bind server, so what was responding? This was either some crazy filtering from my ISP — which i knew to be false because updates from the router worked — or my UDM doing something. Finally after some sleep I came back and looked at the UDM cobsole again and it hit me.

Ad block.

I quickly paused it and lo and behold it was blocking my dynamic updates. There was no record of this in the Insights tab; it was just silently absorbing my dynamic updates and masquerading as my name server. I can understand masquerading as name servers due to what its supposed to do, but I have no idea why it would steal my dynamic updates. I wouldn't think what DNS filtering that enables is fail closed. For being a prosumer company, Ubiquiti's features always feel halfway implemented to work in most scenarios but never actually developing full support for things. Yes, I brought this onto myself for enabling ad-blocking (it was good while it lasted, I'll have to reimplement it in a non stupis way) but the fact that it does zero inspection of the DNS opcode before forwarding requests feels dumb.

^1^I have two "sites", my homelab and a cloud VPC; critical infra like DNS and mail is hosted in the VPC.

^2^I minimally use AI for troubleshooting as a last resort to either turn me on a new path to the solution or as a sanity check before I blame a different component.

I often see people in the comments acting like having a fast or loud car immediately makes your dick smaller or that you have ED. And people talk about owning a car as if they've never gone above 40 MPH and are terrified to do so.

For context I live in a city with actually ok mass transit, don't own a car, and prefer to bike/take the train whenever possible. Trains, trolleys, bikes, and feet are the best forms of transportation imo.

That being said, body shaming or making fun of people with physical or mental issues (that may be no fault of their own) is just shitty. It makes this community look shitty. I hate reading comments about "loud car small dick this" or "fast car ED that". It's unnecessary. You can shit on asshole drivers without having to stoop that low. Secondly, some women enjoy cars as well; be more creative.

Finally, don't act like cars can't be fun. I'm all for phasing out the automobile and revolutionizing transport by returning to the ways of olde, but cars are fun. I understand some of you are grandparents and don't like someone revving their straight pipes mustang down your block on a Saturday morning. That's completely reasonable. But my god does this community act like you can't have fun in a car. I absolutely enjoy loud and fast and powerful cars, because that's an incredible work of engineering and it simply can be fun. Going fast can be fun. Being in a car that purrs like a lion can be fun. Going offroading or drifting or racing or anything in a car can be fun.

We won't convince people to see our side by shitting on the things they enjoy. We convince people to try and see things from our point of view by actually looking through their perspective first, and acknowledging that while cars can be fun they are not sustainable.

ETA: Some people seem to think I think public roads should still be for cars. Never did I say that. I think the appropriate place for cars is the track. I would love to convert all the roads in my city to a mixture of bike and pedestrian lanes with trolleys running down the median. But cars can be fun and a track day can absolutely be a great time.

Hello! I have Proxmox VE running on a Dell R730 with an H730. Proxmox manages the disks in a ZFS RAID which is exactly how I want it. Because I intend for this server to have a NAS/file server, I want to set up a container or VM in proxmox that will provide network storage shares to domain-joined systems. Pretty much everything in my lab is joined to FreeIPA, so I'd like to use the IdM features with my file server. I have given TKL FileServer a shot but it really didn't seem up to snuff with what I wanted. I am not looking for a NAS solution that will require me to pass through the RAID controller and disks to Proxmox, as I want Proxmox managing the ZFS pool. I can set up an NFS/Samba server in a container, however in trying to do so I was running into issues (due to it being an unprivileged container) that I can probably figure out but I want to see if anyone has any recommendations first.

For me it's driving while under the influence. If you couldn't tell, I like me some ganja. However I have long since held the belief that it is utterly insane to drive while under the influence of most substances, with maybe nicotine and caffeine being the exception. All too often I see other stoners smoking and driving, which I simply can't fathom. I've only operated a vehicle once under the influence and it was just to move a U-Haul around the block to a different parking spot, which was such a scary experience while high that I refuse to even consider getting behind the wheel again while high.

See previous post and the comments in this link for context.

https://aur.archlinux.org/packages/util-linux-selinux

I recently purchased a Dell PowerEdge R730 at a killer price, and intend it to be the cornerstone of my home lab. I plan to use it as both a NAS and a container server so I can set up whatever I want with it. I'm a bit unsure of what a good setup here looks like, so I'm hoping for a bit of guidance.

As my R730 has 16 drive bays, I intend for 10 of those to be high capacity HDDs for the NAS with the remaining spots for SSDs for the containers. The R730 will also have a PERC H730 RAID controller. I want a full featured NAS solution (although I am open to more lightweight solutions) so my go to thought is TrueNAS. My plan was to install Proxmox and run TrueNAS on top of it, but I am unsure if this is the best method. Does anyone have any insight on how well this works or if there's a cleaner solution?

Addendum: Anyone have any recommendations for RAID setups? I currently have 4x900 GB 10k SAS Dell Enterprise drives but I intend to bump that up to 10x900 GB over time. I'd like to be able to add these without much hassle, but I'm unsure what to go with. It seems that ZFS can handle it well alone, but I don't want to have gotten the good raid controller for nothing so I'm wondering if using ZFS with the RAID controller in HBA mode will be more worth it than a dedicated RAID setup. And if I'm using a RAID setup, should I go RAID or unRAID? If I go RAID, is RAID 01, 10, or 60 a better option here? Based on my research, it sounds like I'll need a lot more drives for a proper RAID setup and it'll be less flexible, but I would like some second opinions.

Posting this here because I'm unsure of where else to post something like this.

Over two years ago at this point I mutually ended a nearly year long relationship with someone I was still in love with. We were graduating high school and while still going to colleges in the same city, realized we were in over our heads and were in an unhealthy situation so we split it off. It destroyed me. It took me a year to get my shit together (I went on a minor drug-binge for about 3 months after and spent probably $6k from eating out and making sure I always had enough bud) but I eventually met my current partner. Things aren't perfect in our relationship but I genuinely love her and we work to further strengthen our relationship. I don't know that I see the rest of my life with her, but we've been together over a year now and I don't have any intention of ending things anytime soon. We also live together so making it work is more of a necessity lol.

But I can't get my ex out of my head. I've spent nearly every day for the last two years trying to let go of her but I don't know why she keeps popping into my thoughts. I don't love her, I don't want to be with her, I don't want her in my life. And ahe isn't, but I'm still dealing with this. I do have a therapist who I've talked at length with about this but I don't know, something about her just is stuck in my head. Maybe I preferred sex with her? I doubt it but she did kinda define what I consider my "type", so maybe it's just she's more unromantically attractive to me? But it feels so much deeper than that. If it were those shallows reasons I feel like it would've been easier to debug and diagnose. She was my best friend. One day she was in my life, the next day not. It feels like a very specifically sized puzzle piece is missing and now there's a small hole in the puzzle.

I don't know, it's kinda maddening. I don't have most social media, so it's easier to avoid her online and not think about her. But occasionally I find myself borderline stalking her, except it's just me gathering random information I already know from OSINT tools with no intention or idea on how to utilize it (I'm well aware of how to use OSINT data, I mean in this specific situation). Part of it just feels like someone really important to me was rapidly removed from my life and I yearn to reconnect with them, but I guess I fear what such an endeavor might reawaken in me. I don't love her, at least I don't think I do. If I do it would be monumentally fucked up and I would feel like I'm emotionally cheating on my partner, who is somewhat aware of this issue but thinks I have it figured out (I thought I did too; I'm not knowingly lying to my partner). I don't know, I sent them a proper goodbye email a few months ago and thought that was that but it's clearly not. And I've put so much time and effort into trying to wrap it up for myself but now it feels like I'm just lost and stuck. Part of me just wants to reach out and ask if we can get a cup of coffee, but the other part of me recognizes the red flags in that immediately.

I just want to be done with this. I want my brain to get it through itself thar it's over. It's been over. There's no changing the past, and if I could, I don't think I would've reached the point where I am in life with my current opportunities if we had stayed together. Part of why we broke up was because as I was learning how to sell pot (which I was never very good at), I became a massive stoner (which I am very good at). She wasn't anti-weed but didn't appreciate it. When eventually saw that us growing apart was hurting each other and decided to leave things behind. Being young and dumb, I didn't handle the breakup well. I didn't do anything bad or harmful to her or anyone else, but it was obvious to both of us that I wasn't okay afterwards. When I feel like I needed her the most, she was gone from my life. In doing so she broke our promise of prioritizing our friendship over the relationship. I don't really know. I understand a lot of the reasons why I'm hurt and some are justified some are not. I understand the role I played and the responsibility I had in hoe things ended. I was not a great partner in a lot of instances, and neither was she. But part of me wonders if we had met now what it would be like. But I wouldn't have been who I am now without her and without being without her. I'm just so fucking unsure man.

I'm sorry if this is really rambly. I expect that the majority of answers will probably be to just get over it already, which I'm trying to do. I just don't feel like it's the right thing to ask to see her again, because that feels like an eventual mistake rather than closure. Idk, tell me I'm an idiot or an asshole to my current partner or something. I just want to be done with dealing with the legacy of a long-dead relationship.

TL;DR: Mutually ended a significant relationship when I wasn't ready. Been kinda fucked since. Want to not be fucked so I can be a better partner. I suck for this.

Edit: Thank you to everyone who has commented thus far. A lot of the discussion has been really helpful and I've got some new leads on how to debug this issue. I'm trying to respond to everyone and I can't express how appreciative I am.