MentalEdge

Do normal adults who watch porn have difficulty controlling themselves around people? Maybe. I don't. Not raping anyone isn't difficult, no matter how attractive someone is to me. And no matter how much porn I consume, my ability to respect the concept of consent isn't going anywhere, either.

There is no treatment of paedophilia which cures it. Unfortunately, research has shown that's not possible. What modern therapies actually consist of, is moral rehabilitation, and self control training. Stuff that any normal person already knows. For a paedophile to actually act on their urges, they have to lack the things that stop any given person from raping, in addition to being a paedophile.

I'm nowhere near as convinced of the "no, allow none of it, ever" as you. I can't imagine life without any outlet for my libido, be that porn or actual sex. I think most people with paedophilia, live their lives fully capable of never raping a child, no therapy necessary. No clear-minded person needs to be told they shouldn't rape, and nothing about the condition itself means the person afflicted cant be clear-minded. A paedophile with the self-awareness to seek help isn't doing it because they are attracted to kids, but because they are attracted to kids, and also aren't sure they can stop themselves. If that was how humans worked by default, we'd all need "don't rape" therapy.

Nothing about the condition means it would always be paired with an inability for moral thought or self control. If it did, the therapies we do have couldn't work without curing the actual condition. And they do work. Just not the way most people probably think they do.

I'm not sure where the line should be, but due to the intense evil done by offending paedophiles, there is a well deserved stigma around the condition. The general public knows almost nothing about it except the damage it can do to those they care about. And yes, that means we should start with a line drawn as safely as possible, but we should also do the work and the actual research, to figure out how much can be done for these people, without harm.

And for the reasons above, I don't think "nothing", and "make it all forbidden" is that.