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How to not "walk on eggshells"? (lemmy.eco.br)

submitted 2 years ago by P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Some time ago, I was seeing a post online about "walking on eggshells" and how people were annoyed at this, and it made me think a little. I always try my best to be a respectful and decent person, but when the matter is trans people I do get a bit nervous (I'm an introvert, by the way. I'm already a bit nervous by default). How can I be sure that I'm not offending someone while also not looking so worried about it?

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[–] NateSwift@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 2 years ago

You can never be 100% sure, because people are people, but just treat trans people as people and don’t do things to draw attention to them being trans.

[–] sixtoe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have come to the conclusion that when folks feel they must walk on eggshells it is their insecurity. I most often encounter this when people will not just be real with me and succumb to blaming me for their own inability to feel comfortable and open. Often this is because they do not want to expose their human nature to "other" or own and grow past their original programming.

Do what you want. Listen first. Make mistakes. Own them and don't JADE. Evolve.

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 0 points 1 year ago

I have some sort of anxiety…