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Hey, im 20M. I have only dated and thought abt dating women. I only get turned on by women. However, I like dressing up like a girl, sometimes. Sometimes, ill throw on thigh highs and wear an oversized sweater when im home alone. Im just so confused about this. I have never felt an urge to date men... so why exactly do I do these things? I feel so confused, and I have been this way for years. Up until last year I never dressed or experimented being more "girly". I do this all in the privacy of my bedroom, never outside of it.

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[–] LostWanderer@fedia.io 7 points 1 day ago

You can wear women's clothing without ever developing or having an attraction to men; you seem to have a firm attraction to women and fem-related clothing. There is nothing wrong with wearing a woman's outfit in your bedroom and enjoying the experience, it's not going to make you bi or gay. If anything, you clearly enjoy feminine coded clothing close to your skin. I don't really think you need to do much of anything, once again, I feel there is no harm that is being caused.

It might make your egg crack, but that is something you'd need to interrogate yourself about deeply before learning that answer.