AskTransgender

No.

You see, there is someone that answered that hating people is bad and this person completely missed a point. Because it's not just a matter of simple hate. These things have roots in society that affects people's lives.

It's the whole thing about, like, antiwhite racism and so on. The reason why people say that white racism doesn't exist is because it doesn't fundamentally affect white people's lives. No one is being discriminated against because they are white. No one is suffering from their status as a white person.

Another example is misandry. Misandry is not a thing. Men are not suffering as a societal group because of the oppression they are receiving from women. That is simply not a thing.

Being a trans person and being openly trans in a transphobic society, you will inevitably start to feel resentment towards cis people. And that is not a you problem to fix. It's their fault, it's their problem, it's their society that is built to be fundamentally against everything that you are. It isn't something that you have to fix yourself. You are not doing anything wrong.

I am white, so I can't really talk about my experience with racism, however, I can talk about my experience with anti-racist activists, who expressed to me these kinds of feelings, that even as an ally that tries her best, it's still hard for them, and I still have deep rooted racism within me, and that is something that I have to accept, even if it makes me. I can and I will never know what it's like to be them. To suffer from the oppression they're suffering. To have to deal with being non-white in a society that is so deeply rooted in whiteness.

However, I am a trans feminine person. I'm a trans woman. And yes, I have a deep resentment towards cis people. I have a really deep resentment towards men, and sometimes I would, I will even say that I hate men. And yet, nothing is happening.

Because me saying that I have resentment for cis people, at best, hurts their feeling. Meanwhile, they are gatekeeping my access to medical care, taking away my rights, destroying my life. When I say that I hate men, I get a bunch of guys whining that it's not all men, blah blah blah. Meanwhile, I get sexually harassed. I get followed home. I have to watch over my shoulder in the street. I have to make sure that I have my best and most feminine voice on hand whenever one of them talk to me out of fear that they might clock me as trans and send me to the hospital.

One gets their feefees hurt. The other gets their right taken away and their bodily autonomy removed from them.

There is no such thing as cisphobia, there is no such thing as heterophobia, just like there is no such thing as misandry, and no such thing as anti-white racism.